New relationship - how to tell ex / do I need to?

[anotherbadusername]

I have just started a new relationship. It sounds weird but I have a feeling already that this is going to be significant already. I've been seeing him a month. The other day I decided to tell my ex I was seeing people generally - I didn't want to be specific (We split up 7 months ago and have 2 kids so I don't want to be deceptive and to be spotted with new man and him being the last to know). I am just wondering if there is a good way of dealing with this. Since I told him I have started dating he asks me all the time where I am going and I feel bad about lying but I don't think he needs to know the particulars yet. I would be really grateful for advice.

Don’t tell him anything more than you have. It’s a slippery slope. If you volunteer more then that’ll be his expectation and he’ll push for more from there.

If he asks you again, tell him firmly but politely that you’re not together so it’s none of his business. He will want you to respect his boundaries with any new relationships so the least he can do is respect yours.

Thing is, if you say it's none of his business he has every right to say the same when you want to know about his new girlf, who presumably could be spending time with your kids. And then you won't be able to Facestalk her

I'd offer as little info as possible and keep it vague, but answer any questions truthfully. Set the precedent.

I agree with PP,but it just has to be as simple as saying you’re seeing somebody and don’t know where it’s going yet. I’m very close to my ex and even I find it difficult to hold these conversations with him, were both settled with new partners for some time now but it’s good to keep up to date on anything that may affect the children