brief background: was with STBXH 20 years, married 17 years. 2 DCs, 14 and 11 (DS is 11 and seeing psychologist for various reasons, more so now!). Things rocky for a few years, arguments escalated. i asked to go to MC in march last year, he agreed but we never arranged. end of July he says wants to leave, moves out Sept 17. he works away 3-5 weeks at time due to job type and is well paid. Has asked for divorce since he said he wanted to leave, has said that MC is pointless but is willing to come to separation counselling with my IC at the end of Jan 18.
3 days after Xmas he decides to message me and tell me that he has met someone. it's recent and they have only met in person a few times. No way i believe this for many reasons. He doesn't want to be portrayed as the bad person, so i think he has had an EA and now it is moving forward. i have decided I am going to file for divorce and move on. I've come to realise how selfish and how much of a coward he really is.
i'm usually quite positive last few days have felt very angry. Apparently he is working for 6 weeks (left early december) and then swanning off to havana for 2 weeks holiday straight after (not a thought about coming back to see his kids after work even though he will be back for 5 weeks !!) i don;t know if he is going alone, with friends, with OW.....but with the anger I feel like telling Dc's that dad now has a girlfriend. He said she had never been to the country where we live so it sounds like it may be a kind of LDR..... but are the kids old enough and has it been long enough to tell them they may potentially be introduced to an OW? It may be petty and due to anger but i feel like doing it.....he avoids responsibility like the plague, has tried to be a cake eater (before i knew about OW, just with him moving out and having a ball!) and I may just be feeling this way to be spiteful.....advice?