My best friend slept with my ex husband

[Swishy17]

My best friend of 10 years has confessed that around a year ago she slept with my ex husband (who is her husbands best friend) a few times. Although I’m not bothered by it. I don’t really know how I am supposed to feel or what I’m supposed to think about it.
We split up around 5 years ago and we’ve both moved on and get on well now. But part of me wishes she didn’t tell me at all as it was over a year ago, am I being sensitive or is it normal to feel a little betrayed? I think I’m in shock a bit as I really didn’t see it coming. I don’t want our friendship to be ruined as I know she is struggling with life and having a difficult time and I really don’t want to make a fuss about it I guess I’m just trying to see what everyone’s thoughts are on it and if you were me would you just forget about it?

I’d ask why she felt the need to tell you? Was she cheating on a partner?

Bit of an unwritten rule not to isn't it

She can be as lovely as she wants but this just shows that she is a snake. Don’t care how long my friends are divorced but plenty of other men to shag before anyone’s ex partner or husband. I wouldn’t.

I’d not be confrontational about it but slowly drop her from my life. She is not a friend you can trust and confide in and she might spill the beans to your ex about your life.

Comekitty I agree, I would just think this is a very damaged person who hasn't considered me and my feelings at all, and slowly excise from my life.

She's not your friend.

Londonista, I really feel for you and your kids. This is a person they knew and trusted.

Best thing you can do is focus on other friends and family who will support and throw their arms around you and yours.

Your friend might have been in a bad place but to shag your ex is a bad thing to do and to dump her guilt on you at a time that you are struggling and stressed is unfair and nasty.

Reply in a non committed way or feign being busy and eventually she’ll get the message. Prepare yourself to see her run to your ex and bitch together. Ignore and be the better person. X

Why is she telling you now? I'd be wondering if she was planning to leave her husband and shack up with your ex, and was telling you bits now to try and see how you would react.

Hmmm, how odd. I’d distance myself to be honest, she sound she’s after creating drama. There are other men she could have slept with. She wanted to stick one to her husband but also to you! Your ex was a crappy father after the divorce (maybe before), she clearly didnt see anything wrong with that!

She sounds really messed up or maybe just not a nice person . She has cheated on her husband with his best mate and simultaneously slept with your ex. Doesn't sound like she cares much about anyone else. Same for your ex though....