I'm currently three years in to discovery my DH had an affair, so as not to dripfeed , he spent most of 2014 being a nasty twat , I couldn't work out what was going on, ie, I bent over backwards to be better, nicer etc, yes turned out he was shaggin OW, my problem now is I went through hell in the aftermath of this, completely lost myself, my identity, everything. Fast forward three years and I'm so much better, stronger, I know I can be without him, but the shit thing is now I'm okay ,I want to leave, I'm ready to have a clean break and move on, my kids and my in-laws see this as IM being horrible, imleavng the family, I'm broken hearted because when he left for OW I was the one to keep me and my kids afloat, now they are saying I should not leave, it's me being awful, I want my kids to understand i need a life .