Dating someone older than you.

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What's acceptable? How old would you go?

Totally depends how old I am when I start dating that person.
DH is 20 years older than me.

Depends on mental age as well as actual age in years

Thats true..my DH's mental age is probably some 15 years below his actual age, whereas I'm quite 'old fashioned' in my views and tastes...
So we probably meet - on some kind of level - somewhere in the middle

It all depends on so many things.

When I was young - in my 20s I liked men in their 40s. They seemed to mature, calm, confident.
It was great and we had fun.

However now that I am in my 40s, I am happy I didn’t end up with any of those men. I really don’t want to be married to someone in his 60s. And that only gets worse with time.

So - if you mean dating for fun, age doesn’t matter. But if you want long term partner - imagine yourself at, say 45 and see what age he is then.
If that doesn’t scare you - then great.

Dh is 17 years older. We’ve been together 15 years and have 3 dc, it has worked out grand for us

Like Josuk said.

A lot of men become very miserable when they get past their 50's.

DH is 18 years older than me and we have 2 dc

Together 10 years married 8

DH is 22 years older than me. We have been together for 18 years, married 16. It works for us. I never imagined marrying a man literally twice my age (as he was when we married) but he is the man I fell in love with, his age was irrelevant.

Half my age then add it on. I'm okay with that past the age of 21. Otherwise I do feel a bit from the elders perspective

Khajiit - you must be in your 30s then....because it only works like that in 20-30s.
According to your calculation - a 40yo woman should want to be with a 60yo; and a 50yo - with a 75yo...

Trust me - this is not the men you’d be finding attractive if you were to date in 40-50s....

If it so happpened and one ends up in a age-gap relationship - of course it can happen. But - going there by design, and at a later age - not clear why would anyone do that.

My DH is 22 years older than me.

Cardinal rule is half the eldest's age plus 7. So if the older is 30, the younger should be a minimum of 22.

I do think in general its more about outlook and activities though. My late H was 15 years older than me but that was irrelevant to our break up. His subsequent partner was 25 years younger than him... He was older than her parents 😶

My parents are only 18 and 21 years older than me. Would be too weird being with someone my parents age 🤢

I’m seeing someone 7 years older at the moment and that’s probably around my limit.