on Christmas Day I found messages on the iPad from my partner to massage parlour from mid December. We have two children and I was 36 weeks pregnant at this time. Long and short of the messages was how much etc then he asked about extras. Was told to ask he girls when he came but no appointment was booked. I confronted him about this and he said he was only asking as he wanted to go to a massage that was above board and not a brothel, but he couldn’t answer me when I asked if it were male would he ask about extras then.
Fast forward to yesterday when something told me to check his phone bill (both phones in my name) and there’s are loads of numbers for massages that he has text. although he told me that he had only messaged the one that I found. My newborn is currently in hospital and I have been going crazy googling numbers and found that there is one number in particular that he has messaged and my gut feeling is that he has an attachment to someone he has text. He has refused to answer any questions begging for for forgiveness and to be together for the sake of the kids etc. I’ve got this feeling he’s only drip feeding me what he wants to to basically cover his arse. However tonight it has gone from only texting to get a thrill to saying that it’s a school friend who he bumped into who told him she did massages and asked if he’d like one. He said no apparently (don’t believe him) but in half an hour into the convo now turns out she’s an escort?! I have lost any respect I have for him, to do this while we have two children at home and me about not to give birth to his third he was clearly thinking with his dick instead of his family that apparently loves so much and doesn’t want To lose. He’s insistent nothing has happened between him and this escort (again don’t believe him) and that it was flirty text messages.
I’ll also add that after my first was born, he was messaging escorts (wish id not given him another chance) and messaging an ex after my second was born..
Our sex life did tail off a bit in the pregnancy as it was a very hig risk but I never refused him sex,
I’m broken, hormones are all over the place. Wtf do I do? I never thought id be a single mom to three kids but I never thought he would do this to me as it has happened in my last serious relationship. It’s his house, I’m not on the mortgage and I only work part time. Any advice
Much appreciated. (If you got to read all of this thank you)