I've posted about DSD17 numerous times, we've had our ups and downs but recently its been all down!
Does anyone have any advise on how to get her to be more responsible/proactive/give a shit about stuff?
She attends college 2.5 days a week yet does nothing at all around the house (DH and I both work full time and do all the housework/cooking). When she does bother to do dishes, she does them in cold water so they always need doing again... I frequently get asked "what's for tea" as soon as I step foot through the door, like she's incapable of fending for herself and she wouldn't dream of cooking for all of us, she only ever sorts herself out when she can be bothered to cook.
She claims to be trying to get a job but has had no luck yet, even though we live in town with an abundance of shops/takeaways. I think she's too picky as she could easily get a job in McDonalds but she thinks working there is beneath her.
I think she is lazy and entitled, constantly asking to borrow money or using my makeup and leaving it in a mess or asking me for a lift here there and everywhere. I have started saying no. I am not funding her lifestyle (she now smokes because her ridiculous DM buys them for her!!!)
I am honestly at my wits end. She has zero respect for DH or me and she is very often mean to DD (her half sister) or just outright ignores her. She treats our home like a hotel.
DH is useless when it comes to disciplining her, he'll give her a dressing down and tell her she needs to buck her ideas up and pitch in around the house, but NOTHING EVER CHANGES!!
I just don't know what to do? Will she miraculously mature when she gets to 18? Will she all of a sudden start acting like a decent person who cares about someone other than herself? Or am I stuck with a belligerent teenager forever?
Don't even ask about her DM, she's worthy of a thread all to herself...
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