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Do I say anything... worried re DC

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OhMy2017 · 05/01/2018 12:38

DC are spending more time than usual with ex over hols and are very young. They mentioned tears due to missing me, being told that they couldn’t speak with me and should not say that they were upset to be away from me ie lie.

Ex is a narc and selfish. He doesn’t put the DC first. Do I say anything to him? Do I say that this time is too much (he is threatening to ‘formalise time through court’)? How do I handle this?

I don’t want DC to be upset and I don’t want them to be taught to lie. Equally, I don’t want anything enforced.

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AttilaTheMeerkat · 05/01/2018 12:41

They do not need to be subjected to his emotional manipulations. He is simply using his children as narcissistic supply and as a means too to get back at you as "punishment" for you leaving him.

Your children need protecting from him end of. Informal arrangements like this never work out at all well.

Figrollsnotfatrolls · 05/01/2018 12:42

He is a twat. Tell him YOU are seeking legal advice. And do it.

OhMy2017 · 07/01/2018 19:17

I just feel I loose as he will always get contact. All
I’ve heard is excuses from professionals ie ‘well children say stuff and they are fine.’

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