Worried, worried, worried!

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Hi All,

I could really do with a bit of reassurance please.

At the beginning of November 2017 I split up with my girlfriend. It was the hardest thing I’ve ever done when you keep in mind I’ve never done if before...

I was at work the other day and someone asked me how old I was. When I said I was 35 and childless they said? Didn’t you want children? I said yes of course I did. They then said quickly well shouldn’t you of had them by now?

Basically it has got my mind working overtime and I’ve started worrying about wanting children and being an older parent! I joined a dating site and messaged a few women thinking I would get a reply but nothing...so now I’m worried. I mean really worried! Have I done the right thing here?

I could really do with some good news stories of people who met their wives or husbands or partners on or after 35 and are very happy now?

Thanks in advance

Do not panic!
Met my bf at 37.....we now have a one year old!
Never ever thought it would happen to me but after kissing a lot of frogs finally found my prince! X

Don't panic! I know a man who sired two children in his sixties - his wife was considerably younger though. Age and not being able to have children is less of an issue for men than for women however if you're looking for a gf/ wife of a similar age to you then clearly it will be an issue as you/ she get/s older. You've still got time though, my late FIL was the youngest of 7 children and his mother had given birth to her first child when she was 40 and that was in about 1920.

How many more threads?

"Onemorecup" I think the OP is female or age wouldn't be a critical issue.

I met my DP at age 34, we're getting married this year and our first child is due any day now. I've never been so happy. So it can happen, don't stress too much!

Hi thanks for the helpful posts. Is age a turn off for women? So the fact I’m 35? Would that put women of 30, 31 etc off do you think?

In the reproductive world you're a baby. Maybe you spend too much time on Mumsnet. This is purely a female problem. Nature's cruel :(

No it wouldn't. Loaded of women are happily settled with partners older than themselves.a woman of thirty would most likely be pleased to meet a man who knew he wanted to settle down. Get out or online and meet women but don't forget you are looking for a life partner not an incubator. The person at work was a thoughtless idiot.

Oh FFS! I've been wondering when you'll turn up to post one of these stupid threads again

You don't give up do you?!

Why would a woman in her early 30s be put off dating a 35 year old?! Don’t be so daft!
My ex’s parents had him when they were 42. My parents were 38 when they both had me. Don’t just get with someone when you aren’t properly into them just so you can have kids though. My god mum never had kids and she still lives a happy and fulfilled life so it doesn’t have to be the end of the world if it doesn’t happen for you

Do you make all life decisions on the basis of offhand comments from collueages?

Oh its you again OP, asking the same old question....

You need to seek help for your anxiety IMO.

Let there be no panic...met my husband when I was 35yrs, married at 37yrs, baby at 39yrs and pregnant again.

It the relationship you were in didn't work it wasn't meant to be. Never a reason to stay just because you feel you are getting older. Never settle

Good luck and enjoy dating

Maybe you'd be better going out dating and finding out rather than posting the same bloody thing on MN a trillion times

Just a thought....