Proposal help

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So I have decided that I am going to propose to the man in my life around his birthday at the end of the year.

I am both excited, and terrified!

We have been through so much lately, and whilst we both said neither of us feel the need to get married we also said both of us would (to each other).

I am proposing almost a year to the day that we will have moved in together.

He loves his tattoos (as do I) so I have arranged a session for our tattooist for his birthday (he will know this bit) and I am going to pop down to the tattooists and drop off a personalised book which asks him to marry me at the end. I know dp will read it as he'll be intrigued.

Not sure if I'm overthinking this or not but I'm already nervous as hell 😂

Help me make it until the last qtr of the year with my nerves intact please!

What do you mean by personalised book? Of tattoos?

You might need to bring it forward if you're this nervous already

Sorry, your're planning a proposal for TWELVE MONTHS TIME???? And you're nervous as hell NOW???

When you say "help me make it until the last quarter of the year", are you asking us to keep this thread going for a whole year just to keep you calm?

Blimey.

I strongly advise against this "plan". Because the longer you have, the bigger a deal it will become, the more anxious you will get and can you imagine what might happen if he said no?

Seriously, if you know you want to get married, just do it.

I think YEAR should probably MONTH
It sounds lovely OP.
I'm not surprised you are nervous but it's just a proposal.
He could say yes and he could say no.
What would be the outcome for your relationship if he declines?

Why are you waiting a whole year? Any reason not to do it now?

If you’ve made the decision to propose, why not do so? Why wait a year?!

If he says no we'll crack on as we are. I don't need marriage, just want to commit. There is a sentimental reason why I wanted to wait until later in the year (I'm a soppy twat) but the way I'm going it'll be Valentines because I have no patience.

How about Valentines Day?

Well the book is done, at home hidden, so I could do that. Is it too cliche?

Too cliched? We don't know what it actually is.

Oh you mean proposing on Valentines Day? Nah. Romance is always a bit cheesy anyway. (And you need to think of your poor nerves. ) It would be lovely.

Stuff it then I'm going to go for it. Means a whole plan change, but I have 5 weeks 😂

Ah lovely. So what's the book?

It's a book of my partners life with a proposal at the end.

Tbf we are rekindlers. We were together many years ago for a number of years before going our separate ways and coming back together early last year. We are both aware life got in the way back then and we should never have separated.

So I did it. Mainly because he guessed! So 2 years and I'll be a Mrs!

Yay! 💐🍾

I was coming on this thread to be all grumpy and "ffs just get married" but actually you've warmed the cockles of my cynical heart. Good luck and best wishes!

How did you come to rekindle?

Thank you Not

Battle long story short met up again at a friends funeral. I was moving back to the area, and initially he was helping with logistics, etc. Both single after a couple of ballsed up relationships. When we initially split it was purely down to distance (I had to work away) and time (he worked split shifts), so was more circumstance than acrimony.

That's lovely 😊

Congratulations! that you were planning for ages away, year end, and just couldn’t wait!

Ah, congratulations! Definitely meant to be, I reckon

Oh I love this but want to know more about the book!!

The book was from lovebookonline there are several options. I chose the one that blabs on about how many heart beats he's had, etc. It is really good.

He cried! Not that he'd thank me for telling 😂

😊 We'll keep that bit quiet then!

No patience Dozer 😂 God knows how I'll cope until 2020 for the wedding 😂

His Mum wants to buy her hat 😂