I've been with my partner for 10 months .
I've taken things very steadily ( was single for 3 years and dated a little after a 27 year relationship ) so understandably am treading cautiously .
He asked me out several times and I declined . I was 45 with 4 dc and he 41 with no dc and never married .
I didn't meet him for obvious reasons .
He persevered and I agreed to meet for a drink and to be honest we hit it off immediately .
We haven't gone one day since without talking or seeing each other .
He lives about an hour away but often drives here so I can be near my two dependants .
I could nt wish for a better boyfriend .
He's stayed here occasionally and me at his and we've been away together several times . Still only spent short times with the dc but it's getting more and he's totally supportive of it being led by them .
He's met my family , my friends and all my children who really like him .
We even drove to London to meet my daughter and her fiancé .
He's coming to the other side of the world with me in November ( another 10 months away ) to do some voluntary work because I don't want to return alone this tine ..... and when I did go this year having lost my phone , money , credits cards ect and been travelling for days on end and at the end of my tether .... he collected me from the airport , tucked me up into bed , brought me a replacement phone, a wad of spare cash and a huge bunch of flowers . No one has ever been that kind to me . He's seems to be in this for the long haul .
My worry is ....I've never been asked to meet any of his family ?
I've never met one single friend either . This I can understand because where he lives he moved to with he previous girlfriend . All their friends were her friends so now they aren't a couple he only really has work colleagues .
He has mentioned he'd be happy moving to my village but it does worry me a little that he has no friends of his own . He does go to the gym 4 nights a week which is good because hes getting out .
He lives a 4 hr drive away from his parents and sees them about every 6-8 weeks and seems to have a good relationship with them . He calls me when he's there and sends me photos .
Every time I worry that something might put him off he doesn't bat an eyelid and stays consistent ( obv I'm very aware that it must be quite a change for him to take on a family not just me ) .
I can communicate with him about anything and feel confident he'll give me an honest answer . So I could just ask him but I don't want to .
I am also aware that he was only 6 months out of a relationship when we met where he was hurt very badly . He was depressed and vulnerable but we both recognised that so have taken things slowly and he is in a much better place now .
He remains consistent and tells me everyday how much he loves me and he's not just a words chap, he demonstrates it regularly .
If I told him that I was at all upset he hadn't introduced me to his family I'm sure he'd arrange it . That's not the point though . I've got it into my head that this has to come from him not me .
Because I love this man so much I can't wait to show him off to my family and wonder if he really feels the same now ? Maybe not everyone feels the same ?
I've kind of given it 12 months and if I've never been asked to meet anyone in his family by then I feel that's a red flag ?
Am I being paranoid about a man who has shown me honestly , loyalty and nothing but love ?