I think that's it over.

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Background: I have been going out witg my gf for about 3 months. I have been on here before discussing the relationships future. We are both busy single parents and because of my commitments we see each other about twice a month. She is wonderful and the more I learn of her background (like how she escaped arranged marriage) I am in ore of her. She is in many ways a great woman to be with and trustworthy. We have a great time when we are together. The only problem as I have raised before is I don't know why but I don't feel (as much as I think she is awsome) I'm falling for her. As some have before said maybe it just needs more time?

Anyway she has been away with the kids over christmas supporting the family buisness 100s of miles away. I know she is torn at the moment between moving there to help the family buisness or living indipendantly where we live. I love the way she's not needy and doesn't get upset if I don't text back. But since the middle of December I have text twice without reply. The funny thing is I am strangely not gutted by her not replying. I have sort of come to the conclusion (and maybe her the same) that I am just not feeling despite getting on great and her being wonderful. And also what the point in being in a relationship when due to our situations we hardly ever see each other?

So would it be a fair assement to say it's time to end this relationship?

And if so how:

Should I continue to not send another text and see if she texts back?

Or should I talk to her about and I don't think it's working out.

You don’t think you are falling for her.
The only contact you have had with her since mid-December is two texts sent by you and ignored by her.
I’m sorry but you are not in a relationship with this woman. You don’t need to talk to her about it not ‘working out’. It is already not happening.

That's what I am thinking. It been fun, we've done nice things together, helped each other. But one I'm still not feeling it and two since going down to her family she has slipped of the radar. I think they need the help. Her brothers arranged wife is not pulling her weight, being awkward and entitaled. I think she has bigger fish to fry right now and it's not like I get much time.

Do you miss her? Do you get excited to see her? Is there a spark? Being honest it this is your second time coming on here I'd say it's time to end it. I would expect to have a fair idea after 3 months.

I also agree with you. I think she might have bigger fish to fry at the moment.

NK1cf53daaX127805d4fd5 exactly that's what make me think time to finnish it. As much as I genuinely thinks she great and anyone would be lucky to have her I don't feel gutted about the situation. I am remarkably not too bothered. I think there is an element of the timing being bad for both of us but that won't change for about 10 years (her kids the same age). There would be an argument to just run with it if it's enjoyable when we are together? But I kind of feel what's the point? I just don't think the two single parent with young kids dating works.

I'd be inclined to agree with you and call it a day especially if you're not bothered by her not replying.

I don’t think you need to finish it. It sounds like she has finished it herself by not responding to your texts. If she considered you were still both together she would at least have replied to your texts, especially over the Xmas period. Sounds like she has made the decision for both of you.

Agree with the PP that it sounds like it’s already finished but, if it were me, I would do the polite thing and let her know you’re ending the relationship.

Honestly... you don’t have a relationship to finish. Unless she is in coma in a hospital with no way to contact you, I would say that she has just ghosted you (she has ended it without telling you)

I honestly don't think seeing someone six times is a relationship that merits intense internet discussions.

I would suggest you politely message her and request that you call it a day.

It's not really gotten of the ground from what you say.

I thunk single parents can date each other. They are best placed to understand the dynamics involved .... but thr two of you aren't working out.

Its odd the more I thing about it. In many ways it's almost like I am rent a boyfriend and likewise her rent a girlfriend. If that makes sense. When we are together we do all the friendship, talking, cooking for each other, going out on dates/trips out, calling each other affectionate pet names, cuddling, kissing, intimacy, sex etc. We are tottally at ease with each other. But when we are apart both of us easily put it back in a box and put away till the next time. I do yearn for her when we're apart or her me (I'm guessing). I think part of it is to do with her cultural back ground. It may well be a sort of friends with beifits sort of thing but she can't bring herself to use that label. Hense why she was clear that it would be a relationship not something casual. For her it has to be relationship in label if not in practise if that makes sense. I suppose sometimes it's more important to look at what's happen rather than what's said?

Sorry should don't yearn for each other when apart

Sure my auto text keeps turning don't into do?

And out the blue she comes back onto the radar. It's a bit of a confusion. I guess we could keep doing this as it sort of is something we both enjoy or seek pastures new because long term I can see it growing into any more that it is?

As long as it suits you well enough, and (crucially) doesn't stop you being open to other possibilities that cross your path. If that's the case, you do need to have a convo with her to let her know that this r'ship is a 'nice for now' one - it may be that this is all she needs & she'd be heartbroken if you met someone else, or it may be that she feels the same way.

That's what concerns me she's just popped back up last night being all affectionate. I just don't know if our understanding of things is the same.

Also if this is nice but eventially leading to a dead end is it worth it or like you suggested Walkacrossthesand am i taking away the chance of other oppertunity being with her.