Confused

[RollingBones]

I think writing this down is going to make me sound very silly and naive but I’m just so confused about my exP’s behaviour

We didn’t have a long relationship (6 months) due to circumstances at the time which are now resolved. We’ve always been in touch since we split and a couple months ago he wanted us to try again. He tried for weeks to get me to give it a go.
I was hesitant as I’d just started feeling better about being single so he gave up but said his offer still stood if I changed my mind

We slept together a few times in between (my initiation) usually when I’d had a few drinks

We met up again a few nights ago and had a lovely evening together, slept together.
He said a lot of things that night that implied he wanted to be with me and missed me. He was very affectionate and we acted how we used to.
He also said I always seem to go quiet after we’ve had sex so he doesn’t know what to think so I’ve made more effort to be in contact. He always responds but it’s often quite short and no real conversation.

I’ve asked him when we can meet up and go out together and he’s told me he doesn’t know, he’s very busy at the moment!!!

I’m so confused at the mixed signals. Why say all those things??

I don’t think he says what he says to get me into bed, he always says these things after we’ve dtd and he always seems genuine!

I’ve just read this back and it sounds ridiculous
Is this me being a massive mug and he really doesn’t want me at all? Is it some kind of game playing because I rejected his offer before?

I actually still really like him and I would love to give things another go so want to try and understand what exactly is going on

You are confused at a man getting laid as and when he wants? Really?

What’s confusing?

He just wants to use you for sex but doesn’t want to commit to anything more. The best thing to do is go no contact and forget him, he’s using you,

When he says YOU go quiet, he's projecting HIS actions on to you. This isn't going to be a relationship, it's just a shag to him.

It’s so difficult when you’ve got someone in your ear telling you all sorts though. Wants to try again, misses you, thinks a lot of you
I really must just be very naive & stupid

Many of us have been there.

Some men know exactly how to get to us and control us, this is exactly what he’s doing, he butters you up, says nice things, sleeps with you and then says he doesn’t know if he wants to be with you. It’s hard but walk away, there are nice men out there who mean what they say.

Thanks lovemusic