Just want to vent and hope for a hand hold. No one in RL I can tell this to.
Posted about 6 months ago about my partner of nearly 8 years, I caught him on WhatsApp sending messages to an ex colleague, we have a little girl and were trying for a second baby at the time. I had been undergoing fertility tests. He had been having a full on affair for over 16 months.
Anyway, over the last few months he has tried everything to win me back round, charm, anger, threats of a financial nature, but always at the heart of his story was that the affair was over, had been a dreadful moment of weakness that had escalated, that he was disgusted at her and himself and that he loved me and our dd and wanted another baby and a future together as a family. I have been pressing ahead with separation, as hard as it has been, but I think a part of me hoped that he had indeed changed and wasn't lying and was willing to change. I saw the anger as frustration that he had lost everything and that he was truly sorry.
Last night I found out through an email booking that he has booked a hotel room this weekend, we had been texting each other so I casually asked him what his plans were for the weekend, and he told me he was working 🙄. There is no way he would be working in this place over this weekend, the nature of his work is office based and he's booked the room for two adults. I know he hasn't booked it on behalf of anyone else as he doesn't have many friends and his family members are at home this weekend, that's what he told me himself. I also know that it's not intended as a surprise for me as it's my weekend with dd and she's not on the booking. I then asked him outright if he was still seeing the OW and he told me no. He asked me if anyone had told me 'stories' about him and OW and if they had they were untrue and my friends were out to keep me as unhappy as they clearly were.
I know we are separated, but as recently as two days ago he has been professing undying love, sending flowers, I just can't believe how stupid I am that I nearly fell for the lies again. If he is having a relationship with her he wouldn't need to lie to me any more, he could just tell me outright, but the fact that he's lied again to me has sent me reeling, I feel the same sense of shock and betrayal all over again.
Not sure what I'm asking for here really, just a chance to vent I guess, it's set me right back. I have hotel details and could call up at the weekend to ask for OW by name to prove to myself that he is indeed still with her, but is there any point? I know deep down it's now finally over, but my god it hurts. Especially when I think of how much of a fuss he's kicked up about how much he still loves me and misses me. I am so unhappy anyway, my life as I knew it was a lie and now I know the last six months have been lies too. How do I get through this hurt and pain and anger?