Don't know what to do...

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I think I'm in process of splitting from my partner of 10 years and really don't know what to do and what to think....

Been together 10 years, one child, joint mortgage...
I thought we were doing Ok...

I thought its depression, but he admitted that he doesn't love anymore, can't see us going forward etc. (Which is not nice, but fair enough I suppose).

I hoped we would be able to save relationship, tried counselling ( it was disaster), made him got back on his meds (he feels bit better, but his feelings didn't changed obviously) I suggest he stay with relative for a bit to clear his head, he refused.

And here we are, he agreed to move out, then he said he will not, now he says he doesn't know what he will do.

I m not in the position to leave, don't have any family or friends I could stay with but I have enough of this situation.

We talk, but I'm not getting anything from him, he talks about selling house and mediation and then minutes later he says he won't be able live apart because he will miss us to much and he will fall apart. He doesn't know what to do etc.

It's wearing me down, but at the same time I'm still so worried about him..
I really don't know what to do, I just can't help him...

Sorry you are going through this op. I have had a few friends and family go through similar situations. Depression can make you feel numb about your partner so it could be what is happening. Meds can also affect how a person feels about their partner too.

I’m not sure we can really help a person who is going through this kind of thing. Right now he is telling you that he doesn’t love you and doesn’t want to be with you but still wants you there for security. You are allowed to think about yourself too op. Do you think perhaps if you made arrangements to live seperatly that might trigger him to miss you and realise he loves you? If it doesn’t then I guess that is also an answer and it would at least mean you could get one with your own life. It sounds very much like you are in limbo at the moment and that must be hard for you. You sound a very caring partner to still be wanting to help you dh x

I just want him out now, but don't know how to make him to go. I'm afraid if I will live in this situation any longer I will end up pushed over the edge and I will do something silly to myself

You are right - this will drive you insane.
Can you get a free half hour with a solicitor to see what your options are?
Is there equity in the property?
With 1 DC could someone put you up for a week or so, just so you can get your head straightened out a bit?

Thank you for your reply, I went to see solicitor weeks ago when all came out.

We not married so not a lot to fight over, I don't want his pension his savings etc, but I will need his help for few months to stand up on my two feet and I want to stay in family home for now.

I would go if I would have somewhere to, but I don't have any support here. We moved here to be closer his family...
I fear I might lose plot very soon