DH spending a lot of time with the woman he employed

[Mirpem]

I am feeling hurt by the time my DH is spending with the woman he has just employed in his company. They regularly meet for drinks after work or have lunch together and are together daily.
On my birthday DH and I didn't even get a chance to go out for a meal because DH said he was too busy. However, last week, after explaining to me how busy he was, he found time to take this woman out for a dinner date for the whole afternoon. Also I overheard him on the phone planning to go for a walk with her to show her a "beautiful view". When I asked DH about it he said it was work although he did confess he really enjoyed her company. He also said that they were just friends.
I feel so threatened but every time I say something he tells me I'm being paranoid and that they're good friends.
What should I do? I am hurting so much. Am I being paranoid do you think?

Invite her to your home for a meal. Their body language will tell you everything you need to know.

Doesnt sound like paranoia to me, Trust your gut.

You're not at all paranoid! What the hell is he thinking he's doing? For one thing, he's leading himself wide open for a sexual harassment charge, if he doesn't get that affair he's clearly looking for.

He's taking the Piss on a grand scale and trying to undermine your 'rightful' concern by ridiculing you and calling you paranoid..

Tell him to stop Wining Dining and taking Romantic Walks with his.. ahermm Employee ... and you might not have to rip his buttocks wide open with Divorce Rocket up the ass...

P.S. he's a cheeky Bastard

He's openly dating her. You are now in an open marriage. If this is unacceptable to you it's time to lay down some boundaries, insist on them and be prepared to leave him if he breaks them. I would say he ought to stop working with this woman as well but I'm cautious to suggest that as she shouldn't be made to lose her job based on her sleaze of a boss... however if she knows he's married, some would say she's partly culpable and needs no sparing.

Trust you gut instinct!
He's defiantly up to no good.

YANBU to be upset.

Ask your husband how he would feel if you had had this kind of set-up with another man?

This is going to turn into an affair........... Tell him to stop now!

Yep. Not acceptable behaviour from him OP. Sorry

Sounds like what he is doing is really hurtful and I know how difficult it can be to express this when someone tells you that you're being paranoid. It's very unfair to call someone paranoid when they're just expressing how a situation is making you feel.

If your husband isn't going to curtail this behaviour then I agree that you should at least ask to be included and maybe it will give you a better idea of their relationship when you can see it first hand.

I would also feel uncomfortable spending that much time with someone else's husband. I understand having friends at work and getting on well with a member of the opposite sex but dinner dates and walks to see the view to me would be crossing the line between a professional relationship with a colleague.

Also agree if your husband is employing this women it does sound like an inappropriate relationship to have with your boss. Perhaps she feels pressured to attend these meetings as he is her boss? I would definitely want to meet her to try and get an understanding of what kind of person she is and whether you have anything to be worried about.

Hope you're ok and don't let it get you down x

Invite her to your home for a meal. Their body language will tell you everything you need to know. - you joking? You obviously didn't read the thread in which a colleague's wife invited the OP to dinner - completely out of the blue. OP was ripped a new one by posters suggesting that she 'obviously' thought highly of herself, and reckoned the wife was 'worried' about her marriage (what with OP being so attractive herself newly married only months before)

OP - I would be concerned. I would start reminding your DH how much he has to lose. At the end of the day, it's up to him to police his own behaviour, but I'd make sure he knew what he would 'potentially' be risking.

He’s flirting with her. No work involves taking a female colleague to go and look at a beautiful view. He’s sniffing around her. Sorry but if it was me I’d be getting my ducks in a row, seeking advice from a solicitor and kicking him out. This is blatant disrespect towards you. Just awful!