Need help to stop the raging. It bursts out every now and then along with the need to know the details. The details feel like they are being drip fed to me.
I don't believe they actually slept together. They are long time friends (she was mine also) and work together. It became more over a short time with a number of occasions of kissing and holding each other. Always at her house, alone.
She is single and her love life a tinder joke (mid 40s). He and I have been together 16 years, 2 kids. Sex had died off and we were resentful and disinterested in one another. Since this has come out our sex life has been on fire which is fantastic.
I believe it came out just in time as the friendship/work relationship they had had only just changed towards becoming something else.
He's very regretful and we are working on a shared future. We have seen one counselor and plan to see another regularly and develop shared interests and - vitally - weekends away from the domestic humdrum. But I need to know if I am being pathetic and how to get past the anger. I haven't seen her, but she's been in contact basically showing me she feels she has done nothing wrong because they didn't have sex.
Esther Perel books on order! Thoughts to mull over appreciated.