Broken record technique...

[FriggyPudding]

I'm asking this for a friend who's trying (again) to leave a relationship with some very abusive aspects.

She wants some stock phrases to use like a broken record. We've come up with the following. Do they sound ok? Has anyone else found anything else useful?

1. I don't want to be in a relationship with you any more and I will not want to be in one with you in the future. I don't blame anyone, we just do not work. I don't love you any more.

2. I do not want to ever discuss this again. Please respect my right to this decision. It is not up for negotiation.

3. The only communication I want with you is in relation to the children. I hope we can communicate about them directly. However, if you try to bring our past relationship into any of this communication I will have to make sure communication about the children happens through a third party instead.

For if/when he says (again) you've broken his heart/threatens suicide:

4. I'm sorry, but I'm not the person who can help you right now. This is the number for the Samaritans: 116 123.

I wouldn’t repeat it tbh, that’s still engaging. I’d just say it once and then stop communicating directly, leave it to solicitors.

Thanks Angel.
She can't afford a solicitor

Good advice about saying once and then blocking though. I'm v nervous for her about the whole thing as she's tried a lot of times to get away and then has gone back largely through fear of what he's like when she doesn't.

1. Too long. " This relationship has finished because I don't want to be in a relationship with you any more" Don't explain, justify etc.

1. Too long, and DEFINITELY take out the "please"." I am not discussing this again," or " " the discussion was finished some time ago, there is nothing left to say"

1. OK, but have a add " I've told you this once already" if she has to say it twice, and then " this is the last time I am saying this" if she has to say it again, then STICK to it.

4.ok

Thank you, Green. This is very useful.