Guys to make the first move or “modern day” approach?

[SS2018]

Hi guys

I’m just courious who has the old romantic approach of “ if a guy likes you then he will do all the chasing” or should us girls be able to make the first move and initiate contact?

Reason I’m asking is that, one of my resolutions is to try this tinder malarkey. All my girl friends are a real pro tinder and I’ve always been of the opinion that I would prefer to meet someone the old school way... either way you can’t tel if each other’s a werido from a “hi” but I would like to think first personal impressions are usually a good indication of the crazy scale.

It’s just that I recently matched with this guy on tinder that I know and we’ve always been chatty on a night out, haven’t seen him for best part of a year and I always knew him with an on and off girlfriend.

Should I wait until he messaged me or should I take the Bull by the horns and say hi??? I’m just so scared of the rejection either way.

Help plz!

My single friends are all very pro Tinder, one now not single friend met her boyfriend that way. Things are changing, roll with it!

I’d take the bull by the horns and say hey, you matched because he swiped right on you too! Be brave, it’s the only way to move forward.

I say message him. Life is way too short.

Given that he must have swiped right on you for you to be able to message him he must be interested. Go for it I've recently started using tinder and should probably take my own advice

Message him. Life really is short! You have nothing to lose, I have never come across a guy who took it badly when a woman asked him out/took the initiative.

Tinder is super chill, fine for both people to initiate as you've already sort of done it by swiping right on them. Most people don't really take it that seriously so someone might not even see your match without a message. Tinder is ace, met my current wonderful partner on there, we're both catches!

I’m just so scared though, I know it hasn’t been the easiest with the ex but that’s just gossip and hear say I’m just concerned I’ll be the stop gap until they “sort things out”.

Maybe ill leave it a couple days and play hard to get 😂

OP I can't speak for all men, but for myself and my male friends, playing hard to get or any sort of games are a HUGE turn off. Just as you would no doubt be flattered to be asked out by a guy, so can us men. If you like someone, go for it. If everyone just waits for the other, no one would ever get together and men are often hopeless at reading so called signals.

Yes I’m of that same opinion but just scared witless of getting rejected 😩

You dont have to go all out at first. You could just say hi and make reference to the fact you know each other and matched or something. You don't have to go all out at first just chat.