Going NC with father of my child

[PalomaViolets]

Is it possible/practical? Or does it just make an already strained situation even more strained?

Have a 4 month old - he decided when she was 3 months that he was leaving. We’re still under the same roof and it’s becoming increasingly hostile. My mental health is suffering (been diagnosed with PND) and being around him is a massive trigger. Have now moved into my Mums (she lives around the corner). He’s said some unforgivable things to me which caused me to move out on Saturday.

He still wants contact with our daughter which I wouldn’t stop, but if I am honest with myself I am pretty loath to let him have it considering what he’s said to the mother of his daughter (that I should slash my wrists, that he’ll go to court and lie saying I’m suicidal and self harming in order to have her taken away from me).

Anyway. I need some space from him and if I didn’t have my girl I’d easily go NC. My Mum and Stepdad have offered to mediate so I don’t have to take her round to see him for example.

Has anyone done this? Any tips or suggestions?

how long will you be under the same roof? Who's roof is it?

Sorry - that info would help.

We rent and he pays the rent whilst I pay all the other bills (am on mat leave). He’s said he’ll move out but hasn’t really been under any great steam to do it. Hence, me going.

If your breast feeding he can't have her anyway can he

No. She would be living with me but he’d still want access etc.

Although I express and bottle feed so it’s not an issue in that sense

Hi paloma I was in a very similar position to you but a long time ago. I tried to facilitate contact at first, then after abuse toward me escalated my/his parents tried to host.
I’m sure the legal climate has changed, and we both had legal aid which I know isn’t an option now. We ended up in court.
I always kept availability open, although I had legitimate concerns and kept voicing them. Always appear to value the relationship between your daughter and her father.