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Anyone start the new year badly?

30 replies

unioncityblues · 01/01/2018 02:40

I did.
We went to a very close friend's house for a small party. Option for is to stay over. DH didn't want to. Cue three kids under 10 screaming about Leaving, crying...DH insistent.
Now he's furious with me...I wanted to relax and stay, he didn't...

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Original poster
unioncityblues · 01/01/2018 02:43

Sorry, didn't make much sense. Ultimately he could have gone with the flow and had a fun night..instead he ruined it for us all at the end (and usually he is much more 'fun' than me...)

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Zampa · 01/01/2018 02:49

Mine stated with 6 week old DD vomiting down my cleavage!

Hope your night improves. Everyone is probably just over tired and things will look better in the morning.

Piccolino2 · 01/01/2018 02:56

I had a huge and upsetting row with DH. Started out of nowhere at 11.40 and only just going to bed now. Will be up early with a 1 and 3 year old and feel utterly sad and depressed, such a horrible way to end the festivities. Hope yours gets better.

Mrscaindingle · 01/01/2018 02:57

Well Zampa Im here to tell you it doesn't get any better, mine started with my 16 year old vomiting all over his bedroom, sent him in to the bathroom and he vomited everywhere but the toilet. Was very puzzled as he had a glass and a half of wine at midnight til I found a nearly empty bottle of Malibu in his room. It was gathering dust at the back of a cupboard and I hadn't noticed it was gone. He swears he didn't drink it all tonight thankfully.
Now I'm too worried to sleep and have been going in to his room to check his breathing plus I have a mountain of washing and a ruined bedroom carpet to deal with tomorrow.

Happy New Year!

paranoidpammywhammy2 · 01/01/2018 03:22

I'm ill. I have been in bed for days and didn't realise it was NYE until the fireworks. I have no easy food left. Worst ever.

IncreasinglyMisanthropic · 01/01/2018 03:22

Yes, I've had a cold for the past few days. I wanted to do something special this year for NYE as I never do anything for NYE but the cold, combined with me just being generally a bit miserable this week, scuppered the plans I had. Oh well, there's always next year I suppose!

sleepwouldbenice · 01/01/2018 03:24

Yes just given an ultimatum on marriage. Feelstronger though

rumred · 01/01/2018 08:23

I got dumped at 7am. Happy new year Confused

hesterton · 01/01/2018 08:26

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NK1cf53daaX127805d4fd5 · 01/01/2018 08:40

I was in bed for the fireworks to avoid having to celebrate with stbxh

ButtMuncher · 01/01/2018 08:47

We both went into separate beds because we keep waking each other up to cough our guts up. Apart from that though, fine.

cherrycola2004 · 01/01/2018 12:19

@unioncityblues hope all is better this morning, you should have sent him home and stayed with the DCs

rothbury · 01/01/2018 12:48

Sorry so many have had a rough start - are you OK rumred ?

OP - why couldn't you stay and DH go home?

ladystarkers · 01/01/2018 12:52

Was in bed before mudnight having mixed drinks, ended up very upset.😬

rumred · 01/01/2018 14:27

Thanks for asking Rothbury I'm fine. Sad. Bewildered. Concentrating on getting other stuff done. Distraction rules.
Sending love and hope to everyone. What doesn't kill you makes you stronger allegedly

Suspencers · 01/01/2018 14:29

I think I have broken up with my dp who admitted having a cocaine problem Sad

appella · 01/01/2018 20:42

Rumred i also got dumped... excellent start!!!

Ikeameatballs · 01/01/2018 20:49

I was miserable yesterday all day as I'd refused to let dd go to a party and then been unsure of my decision and she had wept all day down the phone to me. My upset irritated my dp and the whole day/evening felt completely flat.

I've collected her from her gps today and she is totally fine about it, hasn't even mentioned "the worst night of her life" which according to her texts was last night.

So....lessons learnt for me, dp apologised too and all sorted and went to see a movie today, then got free tickets for another movie as the lights came up 30min from the end.

Hoping that 2018 continues to be better than 2017!

paranoidpammywhammy2 · 02/01/2018 03:26

hesterton Thanks for your concern. I'm OK. I have help if I really need it.

My fever's going down and my throat feels slightly better today.

I've been coughing so hard it hurts.

hevonbu · 02/01/2018 04:17

My New Year's Day started by being fast asleep in bed, I've been ill over Christmas and have not fully recovered yet. I didn't even wake up from the sound of all the fireworks... Xmas Envy

chubbymummy · 02/01/2018 05:21

Mine started off with me realising I've been dumped by some people I considered close friends. I now suspect the reason there hasn't been any activity on our WhatsApp group for months is because they've set up a new one for just the 3 of them.
Despite my upset I was determined to start the year off well and turn things round in my failing marriage. We saw new year in with family and friends and I was full of positivity all day but DH obviously wasn't. He got drunk (nothing new there!) and started ranting about all the things that are wrong with me. There was a real hatred in his eyes and venom in his voice. I'm trying to process the fact that the marriage is way beyond saving and things are never going to get better. I'm lying in bed unable to sleep and 'D'H is downstairs still drinking (he denies being an alcoholic but he very definitely is).

Ceebs85 · 02/01/2018 05:33

4mo daughter woke at 3am and will not stay asleep. I whispered 'fucks sake' when I realised I was gonna have to get up again with her. DP flounced out of the bedroom. When I asked him what was wrong he shouted 'YOU. Fucking dick. Scared the baby too.

BattleCuntGalactica · 02/01/2018 05:36

I hid in bed in the dark most of NYE because I knew the fireworks at midnight would have the same effect on me they always do, horrible PTSD related flashbacks that leave me wanting to hide in a very deep hole forever.

The numbness and after effects of that lasted all day. It doesn't help that I'm miles away from my bloke and step-daughter right now, so I'm totally isolated.

Lovelydovey · 02/01/2018 05:47

We didn’t bother staying up.

My sole resolution was to try and make this year better for the kids by keeping my husband calmer. He swore at me when he heard me and the kids up at 8am (had kept them quiet since before 6am) and then shocked one of them to tears shouting and banging the table at breakfast. Am fed up of walking on egg shells and failing.

Tweennightmare · 02/01/2018 06:29

Loveydovey that sounds terrible it is not you who needs to change their behaviour but your DH . I think you should be changing your resolution to leaving your husband in the new year if this behaviour from you DH is normal if only for your children’s sake