How to switch off the self destruct button

[NK1cf53daaX127805d4fd5]

I'm in an unhappy marriage and am making plans to leave in 2018. In the meantime I seem to be using my phone or nights out as an escape mechanism.

I'm literally on my phone all day long and I've been out every weekend since mid November. When I go out I'm drinking to excess and getting really drunk to the point I don't remember the night. I've not done anything stupid but am getting teary at the end of the night and just don't seem to know when to stop drinking or go home. A lot of my friends are party people so I wouldn't be the only one in that state.

I am going to counselling for my marriage but want 2018 to be about taking care of myself. Just wondering if anyone has gone through this or has any advice.

Could you manage an alcohol free month?

I was drinking like that to be able to cope with being in an abusive relationship. I got away, I took vit b and I am tapering off all the anti depressants I was taking during the relationship. My drinking reduced massively straight away but I still had an attachment to being really drunk when I was very stressed.

I just decided to not drink for a month and that has sorted it right out. I haven’t been fussed about alcohol since really and though I’ve had some over Christmas, and had one silly drunk night at a party, I have gone to other parties and had just one drink of something I wanted to try or not drunk at all when others were, which is just not something that would have happened before. I’m not drinking at home alone or to ‘cope’ with feelings and I’m not wanting to either.

It might be very difficult to do this if you are still in the shitty relationship so perhaps focus on getting out and adjusting to the new normal first and see what that does to your alcohol consumption?

Wine is lethal. It’s not a session drink at all. But what is? Everyone I know drinks wine by the gallon.

Offred I am planning a dry January so hopefully I will stick to it. I only really drink at weekends and have a blow out every 6 weeks but was partying more just before Christmas. I think I am on my phone or going out as a means to escape my issues.

NC4 I just stick to beer when I'm out. Much easier to manage than prosecco. I've never been able to drink wine all night long. It just makes me so drunk

Day 8 of Dry January for me. I cancelled a night out last night and have told all my friends I won't be going out til Feb. I need to concentrate on healthy eating now too.

Well done

Congratulations, NK. I hope you don't have to stay at home to avoid drinking.

Thanks guys. No not staying at home but have a cold anyway. I have suggested lunch etc to friends so we'll do that instead. I just really want a clear head for Jan