This might be a long one but I don’t want to drip feed.
I’ve been with my husband for 7 years and he is a wonderful person. My family has always been very open with emotions and so i am within our marriage too. My husband isn’t. I don’t know if it’s because he’s a man or because his family don’t really talk about emotions but he’s always been quite closed off when it comes to how he feels with only a few exceptions.
Things haven’t always been plain sailing for us as we have had 2 MC and have struggled to conceive since. We also both come from non traditional families. He was adopted when he was old enough to remember it and I’m from a single parent family with an emotionally abusive estranged father.
Yesterday my husband was sent home from work because they had concerns about his mental health, from what I could gather he had a breakdown at work. We spoke a little last night and I don’t think there was just one thing that he was upset about I think it was a build up of lots of things over time. In the past he has told me that he feels he isn’t good enough and that his birth parents must have thought that too as they have him away. He has no interest in finding out anything about them or contacting them. He does occasionally get very angry about things but never with other people only with himself.
He now says he’s fine and that there’s nothing wrong but I can tell that he’s not himself. I’ve offered myself as an ear if he wants to talk or if he wants to speak to someone impartial then he could speak to a counsellor. I had counselling in the past and found it very very beneficial. He maintains that he’s fine and doesn’t need any help. I don’t know what to do.