I think I actually dislike my dh

[SylviaTietjens]

I really want it to work. My New Years resolution is to be more tolerant of him, not be so snappy and generally just try my hardest to make it work. Then, if this one next year I feel the same I can leave without feeling any guilt.

So he can I get in the right frame of mind? For accepting him as a flawed but also genuinely good hearted, family orientated person. Are there any books on how to tolerate your husband and somehow fall in love with him again?

He’s currently sat on the sofa picking skin off his feet and I want to murder him. But our dc’s love him, it would destroy him if I left, the usual really.

Yeah, it’s not great. I did used to really fancy him. My wedding day was genuinely the happiest day of my life. Now 5 years later I’m sat here with 2 kids, no job, no friends and a husband who wouldn’t look up from his fucking phone if I was cartwheeling naked round the room. I’m sitting here crying writing this. He’s 2 foot away from me and hasn’t fucking noticed.

Oh Sylvia, no wonder he irritates you! This isn't for you to fix by 'being nicer'. The issues are not in you, they are in your marriage.

As a pp saw, there is no point in him earning all that money if you are miserable. And also, no chance of you feeling ok if he is making you feel you disgust him / bore him.

This is not about you singular, this is about you plural. You actually can't fix it by yourself.