Single parents......do your family care?

[debbs77]

I've been a single parent for a couple of years now and was previously a single parent for 18 months prior to that relationship.

I have a large brood and bring them up entirely alone.

I sometimes just wish that my own family might remember that I'm single. That they might help my children to get me a Christmas or birthday present (because the children want to do that rather than because I want presents). No one seems to care. They're so caught up in their own lives that no one seems to think to ask if I'm okay!

I just feel that if it was my family or my own children, I'd be there for them in a heartbeat. It makes me feel so isolated and alone. Good job I have so many children to offer cuddles!!

I don't think anyone really thinks or cares anymore? I got jack shit from my kids....

My ex SIL takes my children shopping and makes sure I get a Christmas present and birthday present. She’s very lovely though, without her I wouldn’t get a thing.

That's so lovely your ex sil does that!

My children are old enough this year that they went and brought me some bits which was so lovely! But prior to that they weren't old enough.

I just wish that people would treat me the way that I would treat them

My ex’s previous ex wife got a present from my toddler, other than that I would have got nothing. It’s tough being a single parent.

😔 I don't have a close family and struggle with absolutely everything.
It's quite sad isn't it? Unfortunately, some people don't treat us how we would treat them. I have decided these people (including family) are no longer worthy of my time. That way we won't be upset about getting let down. If i didn't have an older dd, I wouldn't of got anything at Christmas. But, when my dd's make me cards and write their own words, thats enough for me. They're my whole world.
I would love a family member to invite us for tea, or look after my dd's to enable me to socialise, just a phone call to see how we are. We don't, and I have had to come to terms with it.
You are doing a great job alone. You deserve a treat. Treat yourself op?
Ps make the most of those cuddles 😊

My family were always keen to help if I told them what I needed and helped with childcare so we're brilliant like that. I don't think it would have crossed their mind to get me pressies off the kids tho.

I foresaw the Christmas present situation this year and asked my sister to take my dc shopping for a present for me. It made dc happy to give me something and they chose carefully and did well with their gifts!
I still had to pay for it though

She’s really lovely debbs. I’m very lucky. In fact all my SIL are, you’d never know they came from the same family as my ex H 😁

My ex mil is like that and even gets my children that aren't her grandchildren presents etc. Just a shame my own family aren't like it.