How do I start this. I am a make, and was the affair partner of my best mate...also male. Don't worry it gets more interesting.
OK 2.5yrs ago my friend split with his partner, we went out drinking and ended up sleeping with each other. This was bit if a shock to both of us as neither of us knew that we had same sex attractions before...never came up in conversation.
This continued for few months casually. He got back with his partner and she fell pregnant. We never spoke of what happened between us with anyone or between us again.
About 6months later his partner was away and I visited for the evening, next thing I knew we were in bed. I felt awful afterwards and swore blindly it would never happen again.
After his baby was born I went to visit them. He offered me a lift back....Yes you guessed it we ended up in bed again. This time though it was different we had feelings and it continued for few months.
Next thing was she admitted to sleeping with a guy while pregnant. My friend was upset, trying to put it into context I did tell him he slept with me so shouldnt be too cross. Couple months later she found out through the messages he was sending he and I slept together.
Contact was stopped for about a year. I was later contacted by them that he wanted our friendship back. I agreed on the terms we a had to sit down put in boundaries and talk. it never happened.
6months later after arguments on all sides they split. He came over to stay and we ended up sleeping with each other. Though he really missed his kids. She came over said she needed him back she couldn't cope. I spoke with him gave him a choice go back make it work or stay separated and short his head out. He broke down in tears told me he loved me but missed his kids. He got back with her.
4 weeks later she fell pregnant, I found out while he popped over to pick up some bits, basically she told him she was keeping the child or he wouldn't see his boys. Later that week huge argument between all of us, lots of fall out. I lost my temper and exposed both the affairs to everyone then disappeared.
I hadbt heard from them for about a year. Recently they have been in contact. She wants no contact with me but she wants him to have his best friend back. After only getting my head back I am still not sure but I agreed to talk with him. 3months on we are talking much better. He tells me his relationship is prefect.
Here is the point of my post, he has started calling me by my nickname that we had, and over Xmas he asked why I never called him by his nickname we had, he asks why I don't say I love him like before or send kisses.
My honest opinion, I am stupid for letting him back in my life, she is fool for letting him have contact and blindly ignoring me, he is yawning for attention from me gets jealous if I see other people for coffee.
Or is the rare case of humanities best, of forgive and moving on.
Sorry to ramble....opinions. So much advice for the cheated..but never got the other person