Would you be ok with this ?

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Boyfriend of two months. Was honest with me and says he was meeting up for a coffe worth his (bear with me) ex girfriends boyfriends ex girlfriend. So basically they have both been cheated on by this couple who are now happily together .

Boyfriend says they met up so he could get some home truths about what actually happened at the time of the affair. He found out the truths and felt better for knowing.

Then he messages me saying he's meeting up with her again because she is now a friend and that's all.

I just feel uncomfortable with it
Am I being silly

After only 2 months, this seems too difficult.

Na, crap game of soldiers.

Move on

You’ve been together for two months. If you can’t stand him having female friends at this early stage - there is no future.

I'd be okay with it actually. They have common ground and can help heal from the infidelity.

Run away. Far too complicated.

It's good he told you and is being honest. It could be genuine however it would raise my red flags.... if back off a little and see how he reacts after their second meet up.

I'd be ok with it but I ended up best friends with the boyfriend of the girl my ex cheated on with me. However I would be more likely to question if he is over his ex completely of he feels the need to get answers when he's in a new relationship. He may well just have needed the answers and is ready to move on now he has them and I'd maybe give him the benefit of the doubt but would walk if there were any other red flags at all.

I don't think I'd have an issue with him meeting up with this girl, but I would think his actions suggest he's not over his ex gf if he's seeking closure from a third party. You're two months in, you should still be in the honeymoon period, not worrying about who he's meeting up with.

Question shouldn't be am I ok with this, how do you feel OP? To some it would be fine and to others it would be a no no - no one else can know the subtleties and nuances of your relationship.

I would say its too soon and hes still got lots of healing to do. This wouldnt be a relationship for me, regardless of the ex of the ex of the ex

This happened to a guy I went to school with .. he ended "comforting " the ex girlfriend and recently had a baby together . Started off as revenge !

Nah. Dump.

No.... it's not appropriate

walk away

At two months in that's too much old baggage.

looby cheated on with you or cheated on you with?!

I would stand back a bit and observe proceedings OP.

Nothing wrong with having female friends btw, it's the first meeting that I'd have an issue with.

Who wants to be hashing out the details of an old relationship as they're just starting a new one?

So all the people wanting to dump refuse to stay with a man who has female friends?

What do you want in life, OP? When you eventually settle down with someone do you want a life where neither you nor your partner can have friends of the opposite sex? If you do, dump him.

Maybe see if you can meet her too? Nothing wrong with him having female friends

I don’t really see why he would create a friendship with someone based on that as surely she’d be a reminder of that. If it’s his friend though surely you could join him in meeting up with her; his response will tell you a lot.

MyKingdomForBrie
Cheated on me with. Sorry, probably didn't word it well. Similar situation to OP's boyfriend- my ex cheated on me with another girl (who was actually my friend before it all happened) and she had a boyfriend at the time also who she was cheating on. The other boyfriend who was also being cheated on has now been one of my best friends for years.

I contacted the exfiancé of the ow who my exh cheated with after they came out as officially a couple. I needed to check out some dates for the divorce but I'd also found out that her affair with my husband wasn't the first time she'd cheated on her fiancé while they were together and thought that he had a right to know. It simply gave us both closure but didn't feel the need to talk to him after that.