Should I tell guy I miss him?

[whiskyfairy]

I was seeing a man for a few months before Christmas. It started off so good - we had a real connection and had some amazing dates. Gradually things started to feel different as in he was cooling off and then it came to a head when I saw he was still on dating websites - we hadn't agreed to come off them but I feel like if he was that bothered he wouldn't have been actively updating his profile.

So I ended things with him and he said he didn't have time for a full on relationship. Since then we stayed in touch, I suggested we have a Christmas drink but it turned into him taking me on a date and lasted 24 hours. Dinner, drinks, sleepover (no sex) and then lunch the next day.

That was just before Christmas and over the break have kept in touch every day still.

I miss him and want to tell him. Would you?

I should say, I thought of doing it tomorrow so that if it backfires I can blame it on having had a few drinks...

I guess it depends on what you want... theres something about the saying, you dont have eyes in the back of your head for a reason. He doesnt have time for a full on relationship, has anything changed? Are you looking for something more casual?

Can’t see the point. Had anything changed?

No point. The quote 'if only you knew who was waiting for you you'd stop trying to convince others to stick around'. I do a lot of online dating. I'm not ready for a relationship blah blah blah is just a natural selection technique. I've also had situation where someone who i was dating for few months would not come off online dating even though I told him what I wanted. Red flag

Likes to spend time with you. Doesn't want the responsibility of a relationship. Don't stoke the ego.

Red flags all over the place...
you told him what you want, he doesn’t want that.

I absolutely would not tell him I missed him I’d use the time instead to get back on the internet and line up some more dates...

Nooooo. No no no nooooo.

When someone tells you who they are, listen. The first time. (Probably badly quoted but still..) nothing has changed. He doesn’t have time for a proper relationship - he said that either because he doesn’t have time, doesn’t want to commit or isn’t that into you. Whichever it is, you will get hurt. Stay away!

Thing is, it will be pretty clear to him that you are available and want a relationship with him. So if he isnt biting your hand off, there's a reason for that.

Nooooooo

He is actively updating his profile
He has told you he doesn’t have time for doesn’t want a relationship

If you just want a guy to “see”. Then by all means go ahead.
But if you want something serious, you’re not going to change him.

God no. Move on. Find someone who wants what you want.

Don’t tell him. Reverse the situation - if a guy you liked but weren’t in to told you he missed you, you’d roll your eyes and keep your distance..... The right guy for you is out there, and he isn’t the right guy, so don’t waste your time on him!