Will I ever get over him?

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Just posting here looking for people with similar stories really. (Posted before but got no responses and feeling desperate)Feeling very lonely and don't really have anyone else to talk to as most people just tell me to suck it up but I'm secretly struggling on the inside.

So me and my ex broke up in August after just a year together. I found out I was pregnant a little after we split and he said he didn't want anything to do with the baby either. I was fine to be honest. We went a long time NC and I was very busy with work, uni and a child from a previous relationship.

I was worried about raising two on my own but mostly excited and positive. In late October ex got back in touch and said he wanted to be involved with baby and wanted to try again with me. Things were great, I told my family we were seeing each other again but taking things slow and I (thought) we were happy.

Then a couple of weeks ago he told me he doesn't think it's working with us he prefers being single but he still wants to be involved with the baby. I'm really struggling this time round to get over it because being a family together again and being excited about the new baby with him was really great. He says he still loves me but prefers being single.

Trying to stay positive and focus on the children but inside I am absolutely heartbroken. Hope this doesn't make me sound too pathetic 

He says he still loves me but prefers being single.

And that's his choice but thank goodness you found out now. It hurts, I can imagine, especially after two attempts to make the relationship work .... but thank goodness you know now.

The pain will pass eventually - I promise. How do you feel about him having contact with baby and therefore you too?

He sounds awful to have played with your emotions so brutally. From what you have said it sounds like he wants to have his cake and eat it. He wants the single life, but occasionally misses the closeness of a relationship and knows you’ll be there when he wants you.
He should never have got back with you the second time unless he was certain he wanted to make a go of it. It’s cruel and selfish to toy with someone’s emotions like that.
As for getting over him - I don’t have too much advice as sometimes the only thing you can do is give it time. Try and be strict with yourself about no contact with him unless it’s something to do with the baby

I agree with @Indigo911 It won't be easy but you WILL get over him. And you can get support and love here 💕