Ex partner threatening suicide .

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We split up 5 months ago after he had yet another affair . He left for the other woman and hasn't seen our 3 kids in 4 months.
He got in contact with me via Facebook last month and it has varied between telling me he hates me , threatening me and telling me he loves me . I have made it clear I'm not intrested in a relationship but I do want him involved with kids . He has for last few weeks been threatening to kill himself I'm at the end of my tether with it I wake up every day to these messages and go to bed every night worrying about it . He calls at all hours during the night but I have learned to switch phone on silent.

I have no idea where he is he claims he's in England (I'm in Scotland) which is his excuse for not seeing the kids. He claimed he was in a mental hospital but I think fact he calls most nights drunk indicates this is a lie.

What can I do I have no idea where he is to alert relevant people to his mental state .
I should add he has arrest warrant out for missing court . So he knows if police catch up with him he will he remanded until court.
He blames me for this as the charge is for causing me fear and distress (he abandoned me and kids in car half hour from home with no coats kids had no shoes I had no money at all and it was pouring of rain , he had threatened me and I was scared so I called police for advice , he think I done wrong but I didn't see an alternative I sat in that car for 2 and half hours with 2 kids crying scared and cold. Begging him to return and take us home. He was threatening to kill himself then aswell and I told police that but he blatantly denied it .).

Wwyd?

I don't have many friends butbthe 1 I do have thinks I should just block him but I don't think I could knowing the bad place he is in. He keeps talking about Desmond speaking to him .I think he needs urgent mental health help.

You've had good advice OP.
Maybe some support for yourself as well to help you build up your resources? Threatening to post / send intimate photos of you is against the law. Do contact the police about that as well as his threats to kill himself. Give them all his email addresses, mobile numbers, addresses etc that you have and then block him.
Focus on your kids and yourself. You are well rid!

Right, if he’s threatening to send intimate pictures of you to others that is a crime and something the police will take seriously.

I would go into the station with your phone/laptop whatever and show them everything. They’ll find him and hopefully interview him and tell him to knock it off, if they deem him to be a risk to himself and need mental health support they will arrange an assessment.

Absolutely no more 4 hour phone calls telling him why he shouldn’t top himself! You need to be looking after yourself and the kids, who sound like they’re a lot better off without him.

I repeat. Block him. Deactivate FB. Report to the police and ignore him.

He's a master manipulator, abuser and doesn't add any value to your lives.

Definitely tell the police everything he’s said and block him. He’s not your responsibility and if he wants to kill himself then he’ll dobit no matter what you do anyway. He’s controlling you and enjoying it. You spent 4 hours on Christmas Day with him (yes on the phone but you were prevented from doing anything else) and your memory of this Christmas will be forever tainted by this. He’s deliberately disrupting your sleep so you’re messed up in the day. He’s got you worried about revenge porn. He’s a nightmare (and frankly if I were you I’d have already told him to get on with it so you’re clearly a much nicer person than me).

I’d warn your friends and family that he’s threatened to do this so if they receive any messages from him they shouldn’t open them and should report them to the police. That should minimise any embarrassment being caused.

Do not indulge the 4 hour phone calls. 4 minutes to tell him to piss off. Do you really want your Dc to have contact with him

You are NOT responsible.

Block everything and report to the Police.

MH services and the Police are very used (especially at this time of year) to dealing with pissed up people threatening suicide.