Me and my SO have been together for a few years now. We had a rocky start, but now things are going great.
He’s an extremely caring sort of person, and really looks out for people who have been in his life for a long time, which I love about him.
He has a long standing female friend and they’ve been friends for 20 years.
When we were first getting together, 2 years ago, he had a selfie picture of this friend saved, which I felt a little weird about. I confronted him and he understood and said t wouldn’t happen again.
Of course since then, they’ve both been talking on and off, as they do. Nothing major, just how are yous and what have you been up to type of things. Since I found the picture though, he’s been a little wary to open her messages up in front of me becusse I think he thinks I don’t like it.
I explained I have no issue with him talking to a friend, especially if they’ve been friends for so long. He understood and just got on with it.
Now, they haven’t seen each other in a while due to not living so close and having other commitments. However one time, he bumped into her whilst we were out for dinner. I didn’t see her, but she must’ve seen me. Later that day, she messaged and asked if I was the new mrs. He denied it and said no.
I kind of shook it off and didn’t mention anything and I’ve got on with it. We go out all the time holding hands and there’s always a chance he could bump into her, so it’s nkt a major secret.
Now, the other day after Xmas, she had tried to call him, maybe for a chat, idk. He missed it, but messaged her later to say he hoped she had a good Xmas.
She came back and said it was good, but she feels really low now it’s over. (My SO also said she tends to be in touch more when she’s low). He messaged back with a few bits to say his was good and that he was thinking of her. she then asked if he wanted to come round to hers and she would put the kettle on. He said no as he was out, but later said he did miss her and put the heart eye emoji.
She said she missed him too and would love to see him, even for a flying visit. She then asked when he was doin NYE and that he was welcome to come round and she would cook as she would just be alone. He messaged back and said that he would see what his family are doing, as he usually goes to his families and last year was the first time I was invited. So he didn’t say yes to her and just skirted round it. He finished the message off with ‘thinking of you lots’ and another heart eye emoji. She messaged him back with 2 red hearts and the eyes too.
She then asked him another question, and he just ignored the message and I don’t think they’ve spoken since.
Now at first I wasn’t bothered with the hearts, as I do this with my female friends, however I mentioned it to a mate and she said it was a little strange.
What do you think? It’s not normal for them to message like that...it’s usually just a few kisses at the end.