I'm not feeling strong enough to post in Stately Homes. I'm too weary to even name change.
I'm starting this thread as I wish I'd had something written down over the last few years I could look back on. I also find others views interesting and your words comforting.
My parents moved "home" when they retired to a village at the other end of the country. That was maybe 15 years ago. My mum has had "depression" ever since. I'm not actually sure what her mental health issue is. It's caused my Dad mental health issues too. They both have physical ailments too, they are are 70s.
My family wil go and see them got NY. My mum has just shouted at me for seeing DPs family over Christmas; because the Nhs hasn't managed her condition; because no one returns their calls; because my brother went to his in-laws for Christmas; because I called he while I was alone looking after next doors cat.
I did call while I was cuddling g the cat-it seemed a sensible thing to go. When I go home I need to sort out laundry, direct thank you letters, pack a suitcase, feed some kids-you know, life.
My brother is with them now, well he's popped out, but been there since 27th.
This is my mums last christmas on earth apparently and she spent it alone.
I pointed out that I work and have a family and live hundred of miles from them, it takes a day to get to them. I am coming for NY. They moved. I didn't point out that we spent last christmas with us. They were invited for a few days and cane fir two weeks. I live in a two bed flat. We were both still trying to work. They have form for this. I've asked and told them not to do it.
That it's not personal the way she's treated by GPs or the Nhs- if she's not happy go back. I can't give practical help for her physical frailties as I'm not there , I need to work to pay the rent . It's a two day journey to get to them and get back. It's 6 hours door to door at least and costs!
That if she's a problem with my brother then she needs to talk to him. She should be wary as he may just decide to not bother at all.
I've said I'm not putti g my family through this abuse. My dad begged me to come. I said if she starts hurling abuse at me I am stuck - there is no where else to go. I said we will go if she promises to get some help with her mental health in the NY. My dad begged me. My mum screamed and cried.
We will go but I'm frightened and sad.
She's been really unstable for years , changed history, poor me. But she's still my mother. More importantly I feel for my dad. He can't get away.