My DH is a wonderful man and a caring father but I’m struggling with our relationship. We’ve been married 15 years and the things that were only a little frustrating years ago as a 21 year old really jar now to the point I feel in an emotional desert. One major problem is communication. Conversations involve me chatting and him having nothing to say in response. Not in a nasty way, he just looks blank and put on the spot. Also when I have a laugh with our kids, he is consistently void of any humour. When left alone with the kids, he often gets stressed and shouty and struggles to cope. He has found it very difficult to reflect and make changes to improve dialogue. He is prone to minor fleeting tantrums/huffs about unimportant things like spilling milk. He has always been PIV sex wise and while he comes, Im not fulfilled. I have lots of quirks too and I’m sure there’s a long list of things that he finds annoying. When I was younger I assumed we could work through any difficulties and absolutely adored his other qualities. His reliability, his gentleness, his good heart, his beauty. Everyone loved/loves him, me included. But now the children are older I’ve had time to think about my needs (a first!), the issues seem bigger and unresolvable. Spending a week with him over Christmas was quite a lonely experience. I suspect he has Aspergers (like his newly diagnosed nephews). I’m not sure if getting a diagnosis for him or marriage counselling would help? We would be open to both. The boys are all school aged and day to day we all rub along quite nicely.