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Partner threatening to stop my dad seeing our DD

15 replies

Lizkmg · 29/12/2017 22:00

Does anyone know what (if any) grandparents rights of access are? Hoping it won't come to it, but OH is talking about keeping my dad away from DD over something incredibly trivial. dad basically bought DD a toy dog from wilkinsons today, when for Christmas OH's mum got her a dog, so he thinks my dads playing games or trying to upset him/his mum. The reality is my dad is very insensitive and always has been. But the NC threat is IMO a big overreaction.

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PerspicaciaTick · 29/12/2017 22:03

Her grandmother gave her an actual live dog for Christmas Shock??

Her grandfather gave her a toy dog for Christmas - sounds fine to me.

Your OH, on the other hand, sounds like a arse of the highest order. Why do you tolerate him?

vwlphb · 29/12/2017 22:04

Grandparents don’t have any rights of access unless they are a regular Carter but your partner also does not have the right to stop you taking your DD to see anyone you like. Your partner sounds reactive and controlling.

SandyY2K · 29/12/2017 22:04

Of course he can't stop it....unless you let him. Why would you even tolerate it?

vwlphb · 29/12/2017 22:05

carer!

Original poster
Lizkmg · 29/12/2017 22:05

Sorry no, both are toy dogs I should have said.

I love him, but that's not enough to keep me here and I haven't ruled out leaving, would need time to put things in place that's all.

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flumpybear · 29/12/2017 22:06

He sounds controlling and twatish

PerspicaciaTick · 29/12/2017 22:07

If they both gave toy dogs, why does GM's dog trump GD's dog? Perhaps you should stop DD seeing GM because she bought a dog?

It would be utterly laughable if it wasn't rather scary behaviour from your OH.

DewDropsonKittens · 29/12/2017 22:08

If you are happy for your DD to see your Dad and you don't agree with your DH for the reasons you've said here then he cannot stop you & your DD having contact with him

Starlight2345 · 29/12/2017 22:09

No granparents don't have rights..However making your family smaller is a real red flag.

I would be gone.

RebelRogue · 29/12/2017 22:11

He can't stop you taking DD to see your dad, even if grandparents have no rights as such.

You do say though that your dad is very insensitive. Any more examples? Have there been serious things he has been insensitive about?

I'm asking because as trivial as this is it could be the last straw in a series of incidents, or it could all be petty twattery from your partner.

BewareOfDragons · 29/12/2017 22:11

your partner is being unreasonable and ridiculous.

I think you're right; make plans to leave.

Giraffey1 · 29/12/2017 22:11

He wants to stop your dad seeing dad - and over something so trivial? This is ridiculous and you know it is. Tell your h to grow up.

Rainbowmother · 29/12/2017 22:12

Is something else going on between them as this is a ridiculous reason? Has there been tension?

Giraffey1 · 29/12/2017 22:16

dd *

eastlondoner · 29/12/2017 22:44

Yep, they have no rights.

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