I recently got back together with my partner of 4 years. He ended things because he thought our lives were going in different directions - once we talked about things that was not the case and we wanted to reconcile. However during the time we were apart he was with someone else. Someone from work who he was friends with. He was very drunk and regretted it instantly. He went off the grid for two days after as he felt so awful and it is actually how I found out because I spoke with him on the phone as his mum couldn't get hold of him and he sounded guilty. I wanted to draw a line under the sand, we weren't together it was none of my business. But I decided it was best I know so we can start our new relationship with no secrets. I thought I would be ok but I am really struggling to deal with it (I think more because of who it was) has anyone else got past something like this?