Please tell me what you would do in my shoes.
DH will not get out of bed. He has been having medical investigations and is probably depressed, it looked like he had a serious medical condition last year but it actually turned out to be not so serious and is now under control and the specialist has discharged him.
He gave up his job. I work full time doing something stressful. He agreed to cook and do housework but I still do 80% or just let it slide.
He will not Hoover or mop, puts wash on occasionally but that's about it.
We have a DS who is 8. Very excited when DH does something normal, rarity factor I guess. Loves his dad to bits but says he's lazy etc.
DH does all school pick up/drop offs, DS not keen if I do it.
If I divorce him he might say he's the primary carer and then I'd only get a little bit of DS, who would then pick up DHs bad habits. I could not bear that. I'd rather stay in this miserable situation to keep my son safe.
My friends reckon I should divorce him, but I can't do it to my son. Housing not an issue but he'd probably take me to the cleaners financially.
I have asked three times in the last hour for him to get up, took him food etc, but he won't move.
I feel like my frustration is going to burst out of me but I know it can't.
I just wondered if anyone else has been here, I feel like I'm going nuts.