MIL is due to visit from another city for new year. She’s early 80s. She’s told dp over the phone that we don’t care about her, she’s complained that she’s been stuck in for days due to snow and gas now unpacked her case and is refusing to come.
For context, she’s come to us for Xmas for the last 3 years running and told us that this year she would be with friends and wouldn’t be coming. I repeatedly told her that she was welcome to come. On Christmas Day dp rang her and she told us that she’s decided to have a quiet Christmas home alone. At that point I sensed we were likely to be ‘for it’ at some point despite this arrangement being of her doing. Now she’s saying we abandoned her at Christmas and it’s our fault that she’s been trapped at home.
So should I/we push it that she comes to us or leave it? I have offered to drive to her here btw.
I feel I should just go and get her and brave the irrational moaning because she is elderly, fed up and would calm down after a good moan.
On the other hand, we have had years of listening to the fake victim story. I’ve sent her beautiful presents which she won’t acknowledge. She is lying for attention which I find sly and mean. Plus, she’s not actually my mum.
What would you do? Thanks for reading.