Struggling

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Hi i told my other half i no longer wanted to be with him roughly at the start of november, the kids dont know yet due to Christmas etc.

Anyway we have a mortgage and as ive no where for me and the kids to go too we have to live under the same roof but hes making it difficult. I have also put my name on the council waiting list.

He is being overly nice and being extremly nice to the kids i know this is not him and its just an act.

Currently his dad is in hospital outcome varied at the moment but he said to me last night i cant leave him because off his dad to me hes trying to emotionally blackmail me i said no thats the wrong reason to stay but he was insistent but i refused to agree.

I dont know how much longer i can take living here with him. Any advice?

but he said to me last night i cant leave him because off his dad
Eh? Well that makes no sense at all.
Yes he is being emotionally manipulative with that crap.
I can see why he'd want you there but it's only for him and it's not gonna help anything in the long run.
Have you seen a solicitor?
If not then book now.
Come 2nd January they will be very busy.
See if you can find one that gives a free half hour.
Do houses in your area sell quite quickly?
Do you have equity on the house?
Is it rented?

Thank you for your reply we bbought the house in january last year so not even been here a year yet and yes the house is in a nice area so would sell quick but he wants my name off the mortgage as he wants too keep the house.

Well then he'd need to buy you out.
Are you married?
Are the DC both of yours?
Would you expected to look after then DC and main carer?
Get some legal advice and then take it from there.

but he said to me last night i cant leave him because off his dad

Eh?

I tahr it he's the type of fella who thinks you need his permission for you to leave.

It doesn't work like that.

Not married been together 16 years 4 kids the kids would come with me. Never thought off him buying me out in his words its his house as it was his dead mums money that got us it.

Please tell me that the mortgage is in both your names, not jsut his....

If his inheritance from his mum paid the deposit, he may be entitled to get that bit back out of the proceeds from sale. He still needs to ensure that his 4 kids are not left homeless though.

Yes both names are on the mortgage

Then it's half your house isn't it?

According to him its really only his house as he was the one with the money for the deposit and diy stuff and he will remind me off that. I would walk away with nothing if i signed it over

But the law doesn’t work ‘according to him’, though does it? It works according to the law.

I moved out the day my exh dgf died..
Felt shit but would have felt a whole lot shitter staying with him.
The house is a joint asset so fuck him!!
See a solicitor for a free 30 mins appointment. Ask about payment arrangements, I paid a bit each time but a friend paid a set amount over 2 years to cover her divorce costs.

The house is obviously a joint asset.

Speak to a solicitor. Stop trying to negotiate with this man, who is obviously trying to manipulate you.