Facebook blown his story, the dick

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New BF, lives abroad. Told me he was gutted at not spending Christmas with his oldest friends as he has to come back to visit a dying relative in the U.K.

A mutual friend shared photos of his (fairly recent) ex at the same Christmas night dinner he was so sad to miss.

She's wearing something special he gave her. He never mentioned she would be there.

If he had, I wouldn't have thought twice. As it is, given he listed all the people going several times except her, I'm wondering if I've been an idiot.

Or am I over reacting?

Cotsworld I was thinking similarly. Very odd thread.

Totally confused?
More important for me would be...why is he not visiting you, or you not visiting him? That would piss me off far more than this scenario
If his ex went to meal expressly to see him then that's an issue, maybe
or if his friends are still really good friends with his ex that may be awkward , maybe

This is all really strange.

You say she's a recent ex but how recent? You've met yeah?
Does he know he's your BF OP?

Either way, can't see what he's done wrong

No, he's a liar and a cheat. Dump him.

I know some posters like to say LTB at every opportunity they get but come on.

OP, what story has been 'blown'?

Why couldn’t you travel to see each other? Not having a go, just curious x

I’m guessing he traveled to see his dying relative and your relationship is new and it might have been odd/harder for him having you there?

I'm putting money on the fact that the hosts of the dinner, once they'd received his apologies, felt free to invite his ex in his place.

You sound difficult. What’s he done wrong?

I don't get it

Poor guy...

So you're annoyed he said lovely things about everyone there BUT his ex? Wouldn't it be worse if he'd said lovely things about her?

No Spunkmonkey I think it’s that he went on about everyone that was going, saying lovely things about them, describing the guest list in quite a bit of detail but completely omitted the ex altogether.

I’m not really sure why OP is upset though as she could have been invited after or not mentioned to her bf.

i wouldn't get into a LDR with a new bf regardless of anything else that may have upset you. LDR is strictly only for short periods for established couples. you are all round wasting your time here.

I guess you're thinking of her went to the dinner, he wouldn't have mentioned his Ex being there .... which is probably the case, but thst doesn't mean he's cheating.

I wouldn't bother mentioning my Ex being at an event I attended if my DH wasn't there.

It would be pointless and cause unnecessary trouble.

Don’t see much of a problem here unless he gave her the “special” gift to wear THIS xmas!

It could be she wasn't supposed to be going, was invited last minute by mutual friends, he wasn't aware.

Or she was invited after he declined the invite.

How do you know she was wearing something special he gave her?

I think OP was worried as he kept saying how sad he was not to be going to the party with all his old friends, and when she found out his ex was there got a bit

But I think it was am overreaction I wouldn't worry about it OP