Confused about sexual feelings

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I'm mid 20s and have been sexually active since 15. I've always considered myself heterosexual. I'm engaged to a lovely man who treats me perfectly (I literally couldn't ask for better) he wasn't my usual type when we met and I often joke about him being my "bit of rough" coz he's the bad boy type. I find him incredibly sexy and until recently, our sex life was pretty good, could do with a bit more experimenting which we have agreed to once I've gotten over child birth etc. We are both very keen on having a good sex life. I'm heavily pregnant at the moment and it's recently stopped for obvious reasons. No real issue there.
The thing that I'm confused about is for the past few months ive had sexual fantasies about other women. Celebrities mainly or porn stars etc.
I confessed to my fiance as I felt guilty and he said that once we get back into the swing of things, he would support me in "testing it out". He's said that I'm still young and should explore this (he's 13 years older than me). The thing Is, his ex left him for another woman! I can't help but think that he's only said that I can experiment with women because he's scared shitless of losing me or me cheating on him. In my opinion, if I sleep with another woman it's still cheating! I would never intentionally hurt his feelings. Do you think it's just because I'm not having sex that I'm going like sex mad or something?

I had the most depraved dreams when I was pregnant, I have never been so horny in my life as in the last few months of pregnancy! Totally bizarre. So if this is something which has only surfaced recently and never been an issue before, then hold your horses and don't assume you will still feel the same after you've given birth. Is this your first child?

I believe sexuality is on a spectrum and that you can be really really straight to really really gay, lots of people are somewhere in between and where you are on the spectrum can vary day to day too. Lots of people fantasise about having sex with the same sex etc but this does not mean they are gay (just like fantasising about a member of the opposite sex doesn’t mean you are a cheat) Plus all of the hormones will be making any feelings you have a lot more powerful. Try not to worry too much about it, and see how things are once your baby is born.

Like RhubarbTea I went ballistic when I was pregnant, I was so horny it was ridiculous, I was ready to do it with anyone and anything! Problem was i couldn't have sex cause of previous miscarriages so that contributed to the madness
So it's probably pregnancy craziness .... just wait till the baby is out and it might be a year till you think about sex again

Having fantasies doesn't necessarily mean you need to (or should) act on them in your real life. I have fantasies about women (heck, I have fantasies about other men sometimes). I have always found women sexually attractive. But fantasies are fantasies. They are fun and for play, but realistically I have no interest in ever being with anyone other than my husband. I've done swinging before (well before I met my dh in a previous relationship). It was fun, but for me, not real life (and realistically also made me feel icky about the relationship I was in at the time). So I don't think fantasising about other women (or men) means you are dissatisfied in your current relationship or that you need to play them out in the real world if you don't think they would be healthy for your relationship. I also don't think it means you're confused about your sexuality. Most people's sexuality is much more fluid than being strictly attracted to one gender or the other and that's totally normal. It IS possible though that his reaction is a product of his past experiences and I would tread carefully when it comes to actually making these fantasies a reality unless you are both completely confident that's a step you want to take. It's not one you can easily take back and it can get messy if you aren't totally solid in how you feel about it. That doesn't mean you shouldn't, of course, but it's not the only outlet for exploring these feelings and keeping your sex life exciting.

I had this when pregnant too! Totally bizzare because I know I'm straight. I googled away at the time and I read the majority of those watching lesbian porn is thought to be women, straight women.

Yep im another one that pregnancy did mental things to! I wouldn't worry too much about it. Maybe you are developing sexual feelings for women or maybe it's pregnancy. In either case see how you feel after you have the baby, if the feelings are still there and you want to pursue them have an honest Frank conversation with your dp if the feelings aren't there then you know pregnancy turned you into a ball of horny hormones haha.

Thanks for your replies. Yeah it's my first pregnancy. I've had a few curiosities before but nothing this crazy!I'm glad I'm not the only one who's had these thoughts. I think my fiance is insecure so just wants to please me. I don't think I would feel comfortable even with his permission to do anything with anyone else x