New gf!

[GrooovyLass]

Not sure where I should be posting this - here seemed the best bet.

The doorbell just rang in the house of illness. It's DD's uncle (ex's DB) with a card in an envelope (and a random packet of biscuits but that's beside the point!) for DD.

I made polite conversation as much as I can when I feel like death and go back upstairs, into DD's room and give her the card, which I'm presuming is from her uncle, while I open the biscuits.

She hands me the card which says "from Dad and woman's name." DD has been NC with her father for 18 months but has been seeing his parents regularly. Am I wrong to think that him having a DP should have been broken to DD a little more tactfully than in a Christmas card? She says she's not sure how she feels - I've said to be happy for him and let's hope that she's lovely and can help him stop being an arse.

For context she's 18 and has ASD.

Whatever way he’d done it, wouldn’t have been easy. A name on a card is low touch & non intrusive to be fair. Names on cards aren’t a big deal

If they’re NC how was he going to tell her other than in a card or letter?

If she’s been NC with her father, I don’t really see how else he could have told her (although an explanatory note inside the card rather than leaving it to implication would have been better). Accepting the card if she’s NC was probably a bad idea though.

Oops, that should have been a strike out not a bold!

As I said, I thought the card was from her uncle as he brought it round. I've pointed out to her that he couldn't have told her himself but she thinks his DM should have told her - they see each other once or twice a week.

I'd just about got to the point where I could bring up the idea of a reconciliation without her having a meltdown but she's really angry again now.

Angry at the way she was told, that is, not that he has a DP.

I don't see why he had to put her name in the card. She doesnt know the GF...she's NC with him...his GFs name being in the card was pointless.

Since the messenger is always shot you should excuse his dm from not having told her.
His news to bring.

At least she knows and can decide to stay away or not. Doubtful any woman can cure his twatism though.