Controlling relationship and calling him out for his behaviour

[fighttobefree]

I was in a controlling relationship this year and got out. After NC for 4 months this week I get a few messages from him which was very upsetting. I want to tell him a few home truths. Am I wise to call him on it, I feel it would be very theraputic for me as I've spent the past 4 months crying over how I was treated. My anger is on full boil right now and not quite sure what to do?

Ignore it. Your anger is irrelevant to anyone but you.

Ignore it

I wouldn’t bother they are so focussed on fucking us up they can’t see their own flaws and will not believe anything you say anyway.

Go lunch a pillow or something

*punch or lunch if you’re hungry

Nope don’t do it.

Home truths don't hit home with men like that. Chances are you'd end up feeling more angry and frustrated because it wouldn't have the desired effect.

Staying NC and giving him no reaction is the best plan.

If you want therapy then write all the stuff you'd like to say to him down in a letter but never send it. Getting the words out onto a page will help release some of the anger.

You know he is just prodding you to see when you will react?

Best thing to do I ignore. He will hate that.

You know he is just prodding you to see when you will react?

Best thing to do I ignore. He will hate that.

The best answer is no answer. Always.

Not only will it not draw you in, and you retain dignity and control, you also have the satisfaction of knowing that no answer you can think of will piss him off more than silence

Well, if you want him to know he can still control your emotions and responses...

IGNORE!!!

And - why isn't the arsehole blocked?

Thank you for your responses. You are correct in what you say and thankfully I've written things down to get them out of my head but not sent anything back. Just to vent I think. He was blocked its just easy for someone to put in a new sim unfortunately.