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My husband and I were going to start trying for another baby only for him to tell me just before christmas he NEVER wanted to.

I am currently off birth control (recomended by doc before trying) as he is fully aware but is still NOT using any protection himself and going "all the way".

I asked again as I was confused on why he would continue to finish in me with no protection and his answer was "I don't know, I haven't changed my mind if that is what your thinking".

He is in his 30s so knows all about sex education.
Any advice to know what he is doing/thinking?

I don’t know what he’s thinking but he’ll blame you if you get pregnant!

I think the more important question is why are you letting him?

He knows I want another baby hence why it is leaving me confused.
And in saying that, having 0.01 of a second to react while in the moment is near enough impossible 😂

He could very well blame me.
Takes two to tango as they say though!

OP - i’d read it as he is not really sure what he wants.
Maybe it’s a bit daunting - responsibility and financial commitment of a baby.

And maybe, instead of making a decision - which is scary in itself - he wants to have the ‘fate’ decide it.

I doubt it that if you get pregnant that there would be any ‘blaming’. If he is a good father to your other child (children) - he’d love the next child just as much.

Some people prefer NOT to make decisions as that stresses them out. Maybe your H is one of them?

If you want another kid, and he knows you are off b-control and you have unprotected sex - then it is what it is. There may be another baby.
I’d not question it too much. Just go with the flow? 🤷🏻‍♀️

He sounds thick. Sure you want another one with him?

Grim. Erm ask him what he’s playing at?

You’re choosing to have unprotected sex with a man who has rather rudely told you he doesn’t want a baby with you. That’s not a 0.01second decision! You will get the “blame” if you get pregnant so you risk either him pressuring you to have an abortion or he’ll treat you like shit and possibly leave you to bring it up yourself. Do you want that? If not, stop letting him.

@josuk
Didn't think at all any of the sugestions you just said!
Maybe you are right - he is an indecisive man who prefers to deal with things when they are right infront of him.

He is a stepfather to our near 7 year old (since he was 3)
And we have a boy aswell. He is amazing and does a great job!

@angelf1sh
I can assure you my husband is not the type to run out on me nor force me to have an abortion.
If I thought he was, I wouldn't have married him!

Agree with the "rudely". It was while we were setting up santa presents at 12 oclock at night on christmas. Not exactly the gift of words or day i would choose

And in saying that, having 0.01 of a second to react while in the moment is near enough impossible

Bollocks. The vast majority of blokes know they're coming at least 5 seconds before ejaculation, plenty of time to pull out.

If I was you I'd take PIV sex off the menu for now and tell him it's oral and hand jobs only until he's had the vasectomy.

I also agree with "he sounds a bit thick". Sorry.

He might get warning to pull out but he doesnt give me that warning is more what i meant with the 0.01 seconds @NotTheFordType
He isnt "a bit thick" i can assure you he knows exactly what unprotected sex leads to.

I didn't however think as previously suggested that he could be undecided himself and letting fate do the talking.

If he’s not a bit thick then he’s a bit of a dick. He’s taking no responsibility and you are letting
It happen...

He is a bit of a dick. Will admit that 😂