Old Fwb back in touch and pissed off with me!!!

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So I had a fwb thing with a guy for nearly 3 yrs, everything was great and we had an amazing time together, he was 12 yrs younger than me and I had been married and had kids previously and I wasn't looking for that again, him being younger and not having had that it was always seen as we have fun until he meets someone to settle down with.

A year ago he meets someone and let's me know so that's it, I deleted his number and just got on with life as you do, thought about him sometimes but not often.

2 weeks ago I get a what's app message from a number I don't have stored on my phone, picture is generic and the message is just basically hi how's things, how are the kids etc so not knowing who it is I left it.
A few days ago another message saying ok just ignore me then!!!! So message back saying sorry don't have your number stored on my phone who is this?

It's my old fwb and then goes on to tell me how rude it is of me to have deleted his number!!!
I messaged back saying that as he was in a relationship therefore why would I keep his number? I'm not going to message someone who's with someone else

He's now pissed off that apparently I didn't care enough to keep his number but my thinking is we were just fwb and him being in a relationship (now ended) meant that I would not need his number anymore

Hi
After a year of NC, why is he pissed off and why are you bothered?

Sounds like he maybe wants to start up again and maybe you do to?

Ask him why he's so bothered after not being in contact all this time.
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I expect he thought you'd be devastated and just waiting all year for him to call so you could go rushing back to him whenever he wanted. He's pissed off that instead you've got on with your life without giving him a second thought.

TrojansAreSmegheads sounds about right and he is annoyed that you have not been devasted at the be of the arrangement and are not waiting around for him to contact you.

Whatever his problem is, block the idiot.

Yeah I think he just wants sex again but we did have 3 yrs of great times, not just sex but going out, meeting each other's friends so like a relationship without the commitment which is what I wanted
It just gets to me that he is pissed off when for me if you are in a relationship then you don't want an ex fwb messaging you, hence why I deleted his number

Definitely sounds like a bruised ego. TBH I’d just block him now as presumably his bizarre attitude has removed any likelihood of you restarting the fwb scenario.

Oh he knew me well enough to know I wouldn't be waiting around for him!!
He was just the one guy that I thought got me and got what I did and didn't want so him getting pissed off just makes me think wtf

Funnily enough Angelf1sh that's what I think, such a shame but it's weird coming from him as he just never showed anything like that before

He is just trying to make you his booty call. Hit delete.

Sounds like in those 3yrs he may have seen you as more than a fwb, so him getting with someone else he hoped would trigger a reaction from you- it didn't except the deletion of his number so he got on with the relationship at hand, now it's failed and he's throwing his toys out of the pram because you didn't know it was him, making it abundantly clear you'd moved on and he's being a prissy little prick.

The reverse of this would be you getting with a new man, then contacting your old booty call when it broke down and expecting open arms and him not to have moved on- fucking weird whichever way round you look at it.

Were you actually friends with benefits, or was it just the benefits? Because I'd be a bit upset if someone I considered a friend deleted my number because I wasn't available for sex anymore.

OP - for me it looks a little different.

I think both of your genuinely liked each other those 3 years that you’ve been together.
But - you were in different places - age, relationship stages - so there wasn’t future.
But emotions rarely follow (or listen to) logic, so he felt what he felt.
And then he tired another relationship - something that made more sense on paper and it didn’t work.

So - he reached out to you. And sex is probably a large part of it - which is what FWBs are meant to be anyway.
But - I think he got hurt (which is, in my eyes, different from a bruised ego) - maybe he missed you more than you missed him. Maybe the fact that you deleted the number sounded to him like you didnt miss him.

No one knows for sure. But - I don’t think any of that is a reflection on how well he understands you.
I think it’s an emotional knee-jerk reaction.

Which is what you are doing at the moment, btw. You’ve known him for three years, yet judging him over one conversation.

But kmc the guy hasn’t contacted op in all that time so clearly they weren’t actual friends, just booty calls