I know I'm right, so why do I feel like I've made a mistake?

[winchesterfan]

I met a guy a little over a year ago online. At that point he was working away so we never got out on a date and the conversation just fizzled out, but every so often I found myself thinking of him.

About 3 months ago we started to speak again. Things were lovely, we spoke a lot but when I asked him out for a coffee, he went off saying he didn't want to be pressured etc.
We didn't really speak for a few weeks, but recently started to text again.
Last night things got really heated, lots of talking about what we wanted to do to each other & a few pictures exchanged. However, all he's looking for is a casual FWB sorta thing. I know that I can't do that right now. I recently discovered my ex is having a baby with the woman he left me for which I've found really hard as all I want is to settle down and have a baby and I know that will never happen with him.

I've texted and told him there's no way we could just be FWB as I know I want more and I know that I've done the right thing but all I feel like doing is crying.

We're both early 30's

Why is my head so fucked?!

Your head is not fucked. You have done the right thing for you, treated yourself with the respect you deserve. Now block him, and be available for a partner who does want the commitment you want and deserve ...

Well done 👌🏼

It doesn't sound like you met this guy and he only gets in touch when he has nothing else going on. You deserve more so forget about him he is a complete waste of time. If he's interesting in getting to know you properly he would have made steps in that direction. He hasn't. As for you ex; I can understand what a blow that has been but time to move on. He's your ex for a reason.

You've 100% done the right thing. You want more and he doesn't. Well done. I'd say best to block him and move on.

You know what yoy want, he can't give it you, nipped in the bud. Definitely right thing, why waste your precious time

Thank you all!
I know in the end I've done the right thing but there's just that little niggling feeling of regret that I need to ignore.

It's sounds awful, but part of me thought just go with it and see what happens, thinking I might at least get the baby part out of it but I know that's so wrong and I couldn't do that. I want a baby with someone who wants one and wants to be with me, so I've just got to remember that and keep looking.

Winchesterfan - well done on sticking to doing what you want. You'd be farther from having a baby with someone worthwhile - if you did have a FWB...

OP,you've absolutely done the right thing.
Please don't give up on your dreams.
Concentrate on your life,be nice to yourself.
This guy was playing with you and you don't need that.
The right man is out there.keep busy,love will arrive when you least expect it😊💜🌻

With the ex, I'm completely over him, I just wondered it wrong. I meant I know I'd never be able to settle down and have a baby with the FWB guy, not my ex.

You're so right to protect yourself. Keep your bar where it is.

This guy is not a keeper, you’ve done nothing wrong in being honest with yourself. There is someone out there for you, but this guy isn’t it. He doesn’t respect you and wants to play. Keep busy you need a distraction. A new year is about to begin don’t waste it on this looser, or thinking about your ex. identify something you’ve always wanted to do, look for something that interests you, you stand the chance of meeting someone with similar interests if you do. Good luck and enjoy life, it’s way too short to spend it with someone who is a waste of space.

Thank you all, feeling a lot better this morning knowing I've made the right choice.

Have you actually been on a date with him at? If not I'd say he was just looking for a pen pal! And over a year! Delete and Block!

You’ve totally done the right thing. You can’t give each other what you want