As if I had not enough with the terrible last couple of days it seems now I have lost a friend...
She is moving out of England and asked me if she can tell the bank she was living at my address so she can keep her UK account, she has finished her studies and it's writing her thesis so chances of she coming back are minimal with the exception of coming back for the exam but that could take 1 to 5 yrs as once away it's difficult to find time or motivations to continue. So I said no but told her the reasons:
-People leave the country and things here become irrelevant, I receive the post of 5 other persons who left and said they will come back and they never did. And the main problem is that when away people don't pay much more attention to what is left behind and even if they do, most times is difficult to sort most problems from abroad. Last year I had to make many international calls to sort bank problems (bank charges which started to create interests and many letters going up in tone about the consequences of not paying), had to collect money from their debtors in order to pay these extras, have had to put for sale stuff that was left and deposit the money in their accounts, and we once were inundated with boxes of a family who left and told us if we could take care of some boxes (never did I imagined that they were going to be so big and so many that they occupied our visit bedroom for months and we even had to have them as "coffee tables" as we couldn't fit them anywhere), this year we boarded the attic in order to put so much of this left luggage which I seriously doubt continues to be important for the ones who left. And in all this time we have not got even a Christmas card saying they are OK or thank you for what we are doing.
She got very ofended and told me she would never do something like that, I explained to her that it was not that simple, that she was a very responsible person but sometimes things like cancelling a bank account can't be quite impossible if you are not present, but she got offended anyway.
I rang her yesterday and she told her husband to tell me she was busy.
I rang her again and explain her again that even if she was responsible if her account was charged by being innactive (and most banks do charge) it was going to be difficult to sort it up from abroad and even if I tried (as I have tried with other people's accounts in the past) I would not be able of sort it up. She told me that it was good that I have ring her to appologise because she was very offended, and she keep insisting that I have offended her so much, but now she had forgiven me (this was like smacking me as yesterday I have spent most of the day crying for other reasons).
We had invited them for dinner yesterday and she rang me just an hour before meeting to tell me they were not comming (we had already everything cooked).
As they are very busy with the packing and we are having a day out to a nature reserve tomorrow, we offer them earlier this morning to take their DD with us so they could speed up the process, her husband accepted the offer but I have spoken to her a few minutes ago and she first didn't seem happy with the fact we were leaving so early (at 10:00 as they normally sleep until 11:00) and she insisted in changing the place of our day out because she found it dangerous (we are just going to have a walk at a beach, not even bath in it), and didn't seem very happy when I didn't want to change the venue (after all we have been planning it since weeks ago), she told me that if the girl wants to go they will call us tomorrow.
And in all I feel like a terrible person because she got so angry and because she went to other friends to tell how rude we have been because we didn't aprove of her using our address for her bank account.