DH and I have been married nearly 2 years. We have a lot of issues around his health and our DD (2) who has a number of conditions.
Earlier on we were at my granddads with my extended family. I don't drink often (maybe once every 6-8 weeks and even then I can take or leave it) but as it's Christmas I thought why not? I was only planning to have 1 or 2 so wasn't going to be unable to look after DD but wouldn't have driven on it Good job everywhere we needed to go was local then.
My brother offered me a drink and I asked if there was any lemonade if so I'd have some of the gin I'd seen my cousin drinking earlier (my granddads "tipple cupboard" bottle not a present of anyones). DH immediately piped up "isn't it a bit early?" it was 1.20pm so hardly like I was drinking with breakfast and anyway I don't drink often so it's hardly like I'd be too drunk too cook late. I literally had that one drink and at 2.15 we left to go to PILs.
Then on the walk round to my PILs DH said to me "you better fucking sober up before you get to my parents, are you an adult or teenager?" because DD was in her pushchair and I'd knocked into it by accident - I do this occasionally when sober so it's not something new.
Got to PILs and both MIL and FIL were also drinking so I had another Gin and Lemonade much weaker this one as FILs a tightwade when it comes to drink and will give the smallest amount he can get away with. I wasn't in anyway drunk, I was eating mince pies and sausage rolls, helping DD open her presents and taking photos without problems.
We're home now, I feel absolutely fine, DDs in bed (bit early I know but she got overwhelmed by everything) and I've been thinking about it and wondered if the way DH was with me was controlling, I know there's some jealousy on his part anyway as his family spend loads on me (designer handbags, posh perfume etc) but my family can't match it and only buy him token gifts and he also can't drink due to his health/medication so it could have just been his jealousy getting to him and him snapping at me.