Drunken Partner on Christmas Eve - Anyone Else?

[Fade2Grey]

All fine with the family enjoying card games - no one wanted to join in & watch a film on Netflix so that was the turning point - rude abusive comments, slamming doors & throwing remote as I left the room.

Result is DC dreading tomorrow & me waiting until he has passed out to go down & turn off TV & lights.

Pathetically wanting to know that I am not alone.

I hope you manage to have a lovely Xmas for the DC despite his behaviour, and that you find the strength to leave him xx

Hi fade
I went through exactly the same for years with my abusive and heavy drinking thankfully now ex partner. Dreaded what should be a lovely time of the year because of his moody unpredictable behaviour. And not just christmas but anytime we were all together as a family -it was literally like living in a pressure cooker.
You'll have to summon up all your courage to leave him, it's certainly not as simple as some upthread have suggested, I realised that for years I was conditioned to accept his appalling behaviour, it just became the norm and like you I minimised it to myself. When I left my ex he was flabbergasted to say the least, really didn't see it coming, he had so little insight into his behaviour. It took months of detailed planning and saving up, skint for the first few months when I moved out but now life really couldn't be better. I've not as much disposable income but under so much less stress. Friends and work colleagues have all commented on how less highly strung and defensive I am. I've since met a lovely new partner who couldn't be more different. Thing is my ex is still miserable and moody, me leaving hasn't changed him for the best, he still has the same issues but no longer can use me as a verbal punchbag.
So yes it will be a massive challenging step but ultimately the best for you and your kids, you might regret it to start with but ultimately
Life will improve Take care op x

Do you have any idea of the impact of his behaviour on your children. It is REALLY damaging. If you want to put up with that kind of behaviour that is your call, but YOU need to protect your children. GET OUT

www.womensaid.org.uk/information-support/what-is-domestic-abuse/impact-on-children-and-young-people/

You re the adult you CAN leave.
Your children are being forced to survive this as they CANT leave.
Don't raise adult who need to recover form their childhoods.

You've identified the problem now act on it.