Feel so sad

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Cutting it brief
My partner and I split up 3 months ago.
It was definitely the right thing to do, and I had wanted to do it for a while, but once he had gone, it hurt like hell.
Anyway... I've gradually got better and stronger, but today when I checked the bank, I saw he what he had bought and it's clear he has someone else and has been last minute xmas present buying for her.
A little bit of me expected him to turn up here with gifts declaring how sorry he was etc etc etc... but obviously didn't!
I just feel so hurt and so lonely on my own.
I can't understand why I feel like this as I absolutely do not want to get back with him..... so why does it make me so sad knowing he must have someone else!
Please tell me it's just cos of the time of year 😞

I'm just crying all the time thinking of it 😢

You can take your name off the joint account as long as it's not in overdraft. The sooner you do that the better. You'd be held as responsible for paying it back if he does take it into overdraft.

You can't close it without him, but you can get yourself taken off it. You won't be able to remove yourself if it's overdrawn.

You can freeze it too - which would stop all payments/bills going in and out. It can't be undone without both of you there, but one can freeze it. Not that I'm advocating it. Just saying.

It's not overdrawn... there's plenty in there.... although won't be if he keeps spending nearly £400 a weekend.

But my worry is that it's my address on it too, so if I take my name off.... it's still linked to me... if you get me.

Whereas if I report card lost.... new card will come to my house, which he wouldn't be able to get..... but obviously this would force him into opening a new account so his wages can be paid into it

Also, bag up his stuff and give him a deadline to pick it up.

If you're taken off the joint account, you can RTS any letters about the account from then on. Your address won't be affected, it goes by the person. It's then his responsibility to change his address with the bank.

You wanna force him to open a new account, freeze the joint one.

Catergory12

That's exactly what I want to do!

You'll need to go in to branch, tell them you've split up and you need the account frozen.

Nothing will be able to go in or out. Neither of you will be able to unfreeze it without the other's permission. So his pay would bounce back to his employer - you might want to warn him (or not). DDs won't go out, etc etc.

Thank you for this information... it's much appreciated

I did it when massive twat ex was fucking about with the finances post-split. He wasn't best pleased.

I can imagine not! Lol