My ex-wife legally adopted our daughters first son,(now 15) our daughter went on to have two other sons and brought them up., The first son knows this, and it probably makes him wonder why she couldn't keep him. (he has never had contact with his natural father)
This is quite enough to cause him problems obviously, but my concern now is how he has been brought up by my ex. He was diagnosed with autism, which gave my ex disability benefits of course. I'm not so sure there's anything that wrong with him, except his upbringing by my ex. She was always very controlling and possessive and I think this has caused most of the boys problems. He has no social skills at all, (it's difficult to get anymore than a yes / no answer from him), he has no friends that he see's outside of school, I believe she discourages him to make friends, She takes him to school every day (a 10 minute walk), she keeps him off school for minor ailments or if she is too ill to take him to school! He spends all of his time with her, it's all a very unnatural way to raise a child and I believe it's caused him much damage. The rest of the family feel the same, but if any of us were to challenge her a major family rift would ensue...... any advice / ideas please?